Do we need this thread? I think maybe? It's not a marital woe, and it's not "har har, my rooster said some stupid shit that was really funny." Just- he's so annoying at being a man. Someone on linked in reached out to J about having a client who wanted some insight on a few programs. He was a little skeptical at first, but J uses one of the programs and he replied back to her about it. Whether J is really an "expert" on this program is not something I can personally attest to. But he said he was going to tell her he will do it for $70/hour. I asked why $70? Like where did that number come from? And he said because that's what he feels like he's worth. I was very much "...." with him on that. Apparently work paid some IT guy somewhere around that and he didn't even fix anything or something, so that's what he's basing it off of ?? So now he's looking up consulting and such trying to justify the rate to me. Like, dude, you aren't really a consultant but if I wanted to throw you a bone, at BEST you are entry level. Why do men get all this confidence?? Who fills them up with so much shit??
Lol. I billed out at $80/hr as a super green consultant making $16/hr though. Not you but why do we think we aren’t worth that much?
Yeah I would say in this particular instance it's more of a woman issue in that we are conditioned to ask for what we think someone would want to pay instead of asking for what we believe we're worth. R consistently gets raises not even around review times because he asks for them. That's something that wouldn't even cross my mind to do, just randomly request a raise?
It was just the fact that he basically pulled a number out of thin air and was just going to go with it. What you feel like is your worth doesn't mean that's what people are willing to pay, with daycare teachers being my example. I'd feel like a fool to walk in and and demand a rate that I hadn't done my research on and laid out why. And that he feels like he can pull off the consultant title. It's just so weird to me!
And to bounce off that post, why do they close jars as tightly as they possibly can? When I lived alone I hated opening jars for the first time, but living with TG means I can't open jars AT ALL now.
No sorry, I think you mean why do they leave the jars open just enough that they look closed but when you knock it over, it spills everywhere. Right?
@yesmaster Do you have something like these? They help. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00F67TLFC/?tag=cir0sn-20
My approach too. M does the too tight close on all of C's cups too. It's SO fun to struggle to open one of those while a melty toddler clings to you. So fun. Not frustrating at all.
A year or two ago our dryer vent was full of lint and needed replacement. I wanted to hire a handyman to do it and some other house repairs. Rooster swore he could do it, thus ignored me and did it. Very soon after moisture started showing in the dryer digital screen. I should have called a handyman then and there, so for that reason I do have some responsibility. Anyways, we have a handyman coming tomorrow to do various repairs, including changing the dryer vent because it was poorly placed to begin with. We realized this week that the floor there is warped AF, and it wasn’t before rooster’s home repair. I should have just called the handyman earlier, but damn it if rooster couldn’t have listened to me from the get-go.
That's one thing about men that I both hate and love, just the confidence they can do anything they try. When we moved to our current apartment we didn't have enough counter space for our microwave, so we needed a stand for it. R insisted he could build one himself, and proceeded to build the most rickety crooked microwave stand you've ever seen. We kept it for like 3 months until he finally went "this is garbage we should just buy one"
Honestly, same lol. I didn't want to be the one to call it garbage. I figured it would take a broken microwave for him to admit we should buy one
If J's video games weren't up so loud, he wouldn't have to turn his podcast up even louder to hear it.
He listens to them both... at the same time? I shouldn't be baffled, B listens to music and watches TV at the same time. I don't get that either.
Yup. The video game makes comments he needs to play but also has the podcast on. I don’t know how he does it.
I'll listen to a podcast while playing Animal Crossing but I don't need to hear AC and I generally half-wear my headphones for the podcast.
My years in retail have trained me to basically block out music playing while I'm working. That also means I can't listen to podcasts while I'm doing anything that requires focus
I think that's my problem too. I have completely stopped listening to podcasts while working because I end up missing so much of it.