Sad thread: loss

Discussion in 'The Hens' Nest' started by user4917, Jun 20, 2018.

  1. CJ

    CJ Chicken

    I’m so sorry for your loss, lh.
     
  2. Comet

    Comet Instigator

    I am so very sorry Lh.
     
  3. hellohelloagain

    hellohelloagain Chicken

    So sorry Lh, loss is always hard but when theres a lot of potential legal issues surrounding that definitely makes things so much more overwhelming. I don't think anyone would fault you for crying
     
  4. user4350

    user4350 Chicken

    I’m so sorry, LH.
     
  5. user4058

    user4058 Chicken

    I am so sorry. ❤

    Echoing the others that you don't sound ungrateful and absolutely no one would fault you for crying at work.

    Can Rooster take your phone and manage texts for you to take some of that weight off your shoulders for right now?
     
  6. Erie

    Erie Florida AF

    I’m sorry. I want to second everyone’s comments that you don’t sound ungrateful, just overwhelmed. Which is totally ok. I wish I knew more about the issues you’re facing to help. Sending you so much love right now.
     
  7. user4807

    user4807 Chicken

    I'm sorry, LH <3. I don't think you sound ungrateful at all. That all would make me anxious too.
     
  8. Lh718

    Lh718 Chicken

    My cousin just broke everyone's hearts. Tonight was night 6 of 9 of novena for my dad. Basically it's a variation of the rosary every night to pray specifically for the departed.

    After prayer time, people are encouraged to speak. The host drew out my cousin who has been living with my parents, and she broke down hard. She kept apologizing that she's not good with words and didn't want to be a burden and was too emotional a person. Her parents were doing to tut tut chin up routine on their screens. Meanwhile P and I just wanted to hug her and give her space to grieve.
     
  9. unicorn

    unicorn Moderator Staff Member

    I know this thread is generally for family and friends but I’m so down about RBG.
    I’m not American but she’d given me so much hope for the world and now she’s gone.
    Her wisdom and strength was inspiring.
    What an incredible woman.
     
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  10. megatron

    megatron Wordsmith Staff Member

    I saw this news just a few minutes ago. It’s an incredibly devastating loss for humanity, but especially the US. RIP RBG <3
     
  11. Lh718

    Lh718 Chicken

    I cried in the middle of all the crazy at work. My mom texted that she discovered a life insurance policy my dad had taken on himself without telling her like 15yrs ago. She ended by talking about how my dad had loved her and taken care of her from the day they met to even beyond death.

    I don't normally check my texts while so busy, but she and my brother were talking back and forth. From all the shaking in my pocket, I was afraid something had happened to someone. I wasn't prepared for my mom's heart to be laid out on my phone.
     
  12. CoolWife

    CoolWife Chicken

    That’s a lot for anytime @Lh718. ❤️
     
  13. megatron

    megatron Wordsmith Staff Member

  14. virgo

    virgo Chicken

  15. Afishwish

    Afishwish Bramblebutt

  16. Lh718

    Lh718 Chicken

    A friend from work gave me a beautiful pot of aloe and jade as a condolences gift months ago. I noticed today that they're putting out great roots, and one even has a baby starting out. On one hand, I'm tickled. On the other, I'm sad they're in my life.

    I know this is plants again, but I didn't want to complicate that thread with weird feelings and grief.
     
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  17. CoolWife

    CoolWife Chicken

    I get it, somewhat. Grandma gave me a potted hydrangea from Grandpa’s funeral. I love it, even dug it up and moved it here with us. But I’m super paranoid to kill it.
     
  18. Afishwish

    Afishwish Bramblebutt

    It totally makes sense that that would be bittersweet.
     
  19. Honey

    Honey Historian Staff Member

    I get that. I do like the idea of memorial planting, though. It seems like a good way to honor the cycle of life, to “talk” to a loved one through a surrogate (plants like it when we talk to them anyway), and to show care. The Buddhists have a practice called Maitrī, or “loving kindness.” It’s basically a meditative practice of wishing for another being’s happiness and wellness. I think caring for a memorial plant is a way to practice the same kind of benevolence for a loved one’s memory.
     
  20. Afishwish

    Afishwish Bramblebutt

    Idk how much time my friend has, but it looks like she won’t be lucid again. This sucks so much. She’s just such a lovely person. I also don’t know what her husband’s going to do; they have been together since they were kids.

    This last month has been awful. A cousin had a stillbirth and nearly died herself a few weeks ago. My friend’s mom who I’ve known since kindergarten died the next week. My aunt’s husband died of covid last week; he spent his last month in the hospital alone and none of his family could see him in person. Then my brother’s friend earlier this week, and now this friend. It’s just so much loss at once.
     
  21. CoolWife

    CoolWife Chicken

    I’m so sorry. It’s too much.
     
  22. Afishwish

    Afishwish Bramblebutt

    Thank you
     
  23. megatron

    megatron Wordsmith Staff Member

    That’s so much all at once. I’m sorry fish :sad:
     
  24. virgo

    virgo Chicken

    I’m sorry Fish. That is so much to experience in a short time. Sending you love. <3
     
  25. Lh718

    Lh718 Chicken

    Sending all the love, Fish <3
     
  26. Imabug1002

    Imabug1002 Chick pee

    I'm so sorry Fish. That's so much.