Sad thread: loss

Discussion in 'The Hens' Nest' started by Kimmers, Jun 20, 2018.

  1. Erie

    Erie Florida AF

    Oh no @Lh718 that is scary. I hope your mom is incorrect. Sending you lots of positive thoughts and love!!
  2. Apples&Oranges

    Apples&Oranges Chicken

    Im so sorry LH. Hopefully the prognosis is better than your mom is letting on. It's so hard to be going through these things right now
  3. scotchbutter

    scotchbutter Chicken

    I am so very sorry @Lh718
  4. calicat

    calicat Queen of the Eggs

    Keeping you and your father in my thoughts @Lh718
  5. Zoomzoom

    Zoomzoom Old Curmudgeon

    I'm sorry LH.
  6. Afishwish

    Afishwish Bramblebutt

    @Lh718 I’m so sorry, friend. ❤️
  7. fantasynerd

    fantasynerd Extra Extra

    @Lh718 I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this <3
  8. Kimmers

    Kimmers Chicken

    I’m so sorry @Lh718 - I’ll be thinking of you and your dad and hoping for a good outcome.
  9. ClamJam

    ClamJam Chicken

    I’m so sorry, LH.
  10. megatron

    megatron Wordsmith Staff Member

    I’m so sorry lh <3
  11. Tumnus

    Tumnus Chicken

    I'm sorry Lh <3
  12. Fitz

    Fitz Leslie Knope Monster

    I'm so very sorry, @Lh718 . Keeping you and your family in my thoughts. <3
  13. Lh718

    Lh718 Chicken

    Thank you for all your love, ladies. I'm sorry I am flip flopping threads, just all over the place.

    My mom just called and gave a pretty grim update. She has decided to change my dad to DNR status.
  14. calicat

    calicat Queen of the Eggs

    I'm so sorry
  15. CoolWife

    CoolWife Chicken

    I’m so sorry @Lh718. Thinking of you and yours.
  16. ClamJam

    ClamJam Chicken

    Sorry, lh. Thinking of you and your family.
  17. fantasynerd

    fantasynerd Extra Extra

    I’m so sorry @Lh718 . Sending love <3<3<3
  18. Apples&Oranges

    Apples&Oranges Chicken

    <3<3<3 such an emotional roller coaster for you. Thinking of you and your family.
  19. Fitz

    Fitz Leslie Knope Monster

    I’m so sorry friend.
  20. moose

    moose RINGWORM GIRL :(

  21. Afishwish

    Afishwish Bramblebutt

    I’m so sorry. Much love to you.
  22. Lh718

    Lh718 Chicken

    I don't know where to put this. Not so much a vent but a general sense of frustration of having to navigate this new world.

    I'm trying to get more clarity into wtf happened last night when my dad passed. Not necessarily in a "the hospital did something wrong!" way but more that my mom is telling me confusing things.

    But there are things I've never dealt with before like authorized personal representative definition and "legitimate" purpose for medical records. Like...because we want them? I don't know if that counts. Apparently the representative is not just the same person who makes decisions for the incapacitated person but a legally defined entity. My mom or I might have to go to probate court to be declared this title. Maybe?

    Also, I got the news while I was at work, so my charge nurse and manager knew it had happened and already put up the condolences notice on our board. I know this because numbers I don't know are texting me to say they're sorry and to let them know if I need them to cover any shifts or to send food or whatever. It's all very sweet and caring, but I'm still processing and am panicking about responding and getting looks the next time I'm at work.

    It's been a lot.
  23. Lh718

    Lh718 Chicken

    And I don't want to sound ungrateful. I'm truly touched by how much people care. It's just so raw, and the thought of crying at work is making me anxious ahead of time. Maybe I'm just using this worry to distract myself, but my brain refuses to understand it's not helping.
  24. shakespeer

    shakespeer Basic Pirate Lesbian Aesthete

    @Lh718 you don’t sound ungrateful at all. Those are all valid concerns and feelings. I am so sorry you’re dealing with them.
  25. moose

    moose RINGWORM GIRL :(

    I am so sorry LH. You don’t sound ungrateful at all. It’s a big thing to process.