Sad thread: loss

Discussion in 'The Hens' Nest' started by user4917, Jun 20, 2018.

  1. user4058

    user4058 Chicken

    I'm sorry Lh <3
  2. Fitz

    Fitz Leslie Knope Monster

    I'm so very sorry, @Lh718 . Keeping you and your family in my thoughts. <3
  3. Lh718

    Lh718 Chicken

    Thank you for all your love, ladies. I'm sorry I am flip flopping threads, just all over the place.

    My mom just called and gave a pretty grim update. She has decided to change my dad to DNR status.
  4. calicat

    calicat Queen of the Eggs

    I'm so sorry
  5. CoolWife

    CoolWife Chicken

    I’m so sorry @Lh718. Thinking of you and yours.
  6. CJ

    CJ Chicken

    Sorry, lh. Thinking of you and your family.
  7. user63

    user63 Chicken

    <3<3<3 such an emotional roller coaster for you. Thinking of you and your family.
  8. Fitz

    Fitz Leslie Knope Monster

    I’m so sorry friend.
  9. moose

    moose RINGWORM GIRL :(

  10. Afishwish

    Afishwish Bramblebutt

    I’m so sorry. Much love to you.
  11. Lh718

    Lh718 Chicken

    I don't know where to put this. Not so much a vent but a general sense of frustration of having to navigate this new world.

    I'm trying to get more clarity into wtf happened last night when my dad passed. Not necessarily in a "the hospital did something wrong!" way but more that my mom is telling me confusing things.

    But there are things I've never dealt with before like authorized personal representative definition and "legitimate" purpose for medical records. Like...because we want them? I don't know if that counts. Apparently the representative is not just the same person who makes decisions for the incapacitated person but a legally defined entity. My mom or I might have to go to probate court to be declared this title. Maybe?

    Also, I got the news while I was at work, so my charge nurse and manager knew it had happened and already put up the condolences notice on our board. I know this because numbers I don't know are texting me to say they're sorry and to let them know if I need them to cover any shifts or to send food or whatever. It's all very sweet and caring, but I'm still processing and am panicking about responding and getting looks the next time I'm at work.

    It's been a lot.
  12. Lh718

    Lh718 Chicken

    And I don't want to sound ungrateful. I'm truly touched by how much people care. It's just so raw, and the thought of crying at work is making me anxious ahead of time. Maybe I'm just using this worry to distract myself, but my brain refuses to understand it's not helping.
  13. shakespeer

    shakespeer Basic Pirate Lesbian Aesthete

    @Lh718 you don’t sound ungrateful at all. Those are all valid concerns and feelings. I am so sorry you’re dealing with them.
  14. moose

    moose RINGWORM GIRL :(

    I am so sorry LH. You don’t sound ungrateful at all. It’s a big thing to process.
  15. Fitz

    Fitz Leslie Knope Monster

    @Lh718 is your mom working with a social worker or faith leader? Folks in those positions can often help families navigate the hospital bureaucracy and paperwork.

    I know you know your way around hospitals but it’s different when it’s family. Sending lots of love.
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  16. Zoomzoom

    Zoomzoom Old Curmudgeon

    I'm so sorry LH. Thinking of you.
  17. user4917

    user4917 Chicken

    I’m so, so sorry LH. <3
  18. user63

    user63 Chicken

    Im sorry LH :sad: I agree with others that you dont sound ungrateful. It's just so much to process. Thinking of you and sending my love. <3<3
  19. Imabug1002

    Imabug1002 Chick pee

    I’m so sorry LH. <3
  20. user4092

    user4092 Chicken

    I am so very sorry for your loss @Lh718
  21. CoolWife

    CoolWife Chicken

    I’m so sorry. It cannot be said enough that this is a super fucked up time baseline and losing a loved one right now is so many more layers of terrible. Process, grieve, deal however you need to just to get through a day at a time.
  22. megatron

    megatron Wordsmith Staff Member

    I’m so sorry LH. Grief is strange, and we all grieve differently. Don’t worry about what that looks like for you, or feel ungrateful because of it. You are processing in your own way and that’s ok <3
  23. CJ

    CJ Chicken

    I’m so sorry for your loss, lh.
  24. Comet

    Comet Instigator

    I am so very sorry Lh.
  25. hellohelloagain

    hellohelloagain Chicken

    So sorry Lh, loss is always hard but when theres a lot of potential legal issues surrounding that definitely makes things so much more overwhelming. I don't think anyone would fault you for crying
  26. user4350

    user4350 Chicken

    I’m so sorry, LH.