Discussion in 'The Hens' Nest' started by user4917, Jun 20, 2018.
I'm sorry Lh
I'm so very sorry, @Lh718 . Keeping you and your family in my thoughts.
Thank you for all your love, ladies. I'm sorry I am flip flopping threads, just all over the place.
My mom just called and gave a pretty grim update. She has decided to change my dad to DNR status.
I'm so sorry
I’m so sorry @Lh718. Thinking of you and yours.
Sorry, lh. Thinking of you and your family.
such an emotional roller coaster for you. Thinking of you and your family.
I’m so sorry friend.
I’m so sorry. Much love to you.
I don't know where to put this. Not so much a vent but a general sense of frustration of having to navigate this new world.
I'm trying to get more clarity into wtf happened last night when my dad passed. Not necessarily in a "the hospital did something wrong!" way but more that my mom is telling me confusing things.
But there are things I've never dealt with before like authorized personal representative definition and "legitimate" purpose for medical records. Like...because we want them? I don't know if that counts. Apparently the representative is not just the same person who makes decisions for the incapacitated person but a legally defined entity. My mom or I might have to go to probate court to be declared this title. Maybe?
Also, I got the news while I was at work, so my charge nurse and manager knew it had happened and already put up the condolences notice on our board. I know this because numbers I don't know are texting me to say they're sorry and to let them know if I need them to cover any shifts or to send food or whatever. It's all very sweet and caring, but I'm still processing and am panicking about responding and getting looks the next time I'm at work.
It's been a lot.
And I don't want to sound ungrateful. I'm truly touched by how much people care. It's just so raw, and the thought of crying at work is making me anxious ahead of time. Maybe I'm just using this worry to distract myself, but my brain refuses to understand it's not helping.
@Lh718 you don’t sound ungrateful at all. Those are all valid concerns and feelings. I am so sorry you’re dealing with them.
I am so sorry LH. You don’t sound ungrateful at all. It’s a big thing to process.
@Lh718 is your mom working with a social worker or faith leader? Folks in those positions can often help families navigate the hospital bureaucracy and paperwork.
I know you know your way around hospitals but it’s different when it’s family. Sending lots of love.
I'm so sorry LH. Thinking of you.
I’m so, so sorry LH.
Im sorry LH I agree with others that you dont sound ungrateful. It's just so much to process. Thinking of you and sending my love.
I’m so sorry LH.
I am so very sorry for your loss @Lh718
I’m so sorry. It cannot be said enough that this is a super fucked up time baseline and losing a loved one right now is so many more layers of terrible. Process, grieve, deal however you need to just to get through a day at a time.
I’m so sorry LH. Grief is strange, and we all grieve differently. Don’t worry about what that looks like for you, or feel ungrateful because of it. You are processing in your own way and that’s ok
I’m so sorry for your loss, lh.
I am so very sorry Lh.
So sorry Lh, loss is always hard but when theres a lot of potential legal issues surrounding that definitely makes things so much more overwhelming. I don't think anyone would fault you for crying
I’m so sorry, LH.