Ooops I married a douchebag

Discussion in 'Klassy Brides' started by Honey, Oct 21, 2012.

  1. snarktopus

    snarktopus Chicken

    Re: Husband FORBIDS bee from quitting 2nd job

    I had a really shitty job right out of college that was taking a serious toll on me, and I was only working 40 hours a week. I begged J to quit his absolutely awful job while I was unemployed and still in school, because it was killing him. He DID try to get another job, but the staffing agency told him that he had to quit that one before they'd look, but we found out pretty quickly that a) that was a huge lie, and b) if you don't want to work for that specific employer, they don't give a fuck about you. He ended up going back to school and gets to focus on that. It's not ideal, but I started a better job right after he went back, and when he graduates in 2015, it should double our income.
     
  2. Vespidae

    Vespidae Antagonist Staff Member

    Re: Husband FORBIDS bee from quitting 2nd job

    My chickenman hates my job. I think he'd dance all night if I came home today and told him I'd up and quit. But he'd expect me to find something new and better almost immediately - his view on stay-at-home-wife is a forever-or-never kind of thing, and I am just not a forever housewife kind of lady. Not that the idea of staying home and spending his money on treats and pedicures isn't appealing, but I have goals. Can't do it. Not forever.
     
  3. Itsy

    Itsy Chicken

    Engagement broken twice. Will the relationship work out?

    I really, really, hope that this is made up: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/...y-together-does-this-ever-work#ixzz2ope3GEUE.

    I’m not going to post the whole thing, because it’s ridiculously long, but to summarise, OP has been dumped twice by her younger fiancé. The first time was because he had a crush on a co-worker, and wanted to have a shot at her. Presumably that failed, because he came back and they got re-engaged.

    Now he’s broken off the engagement again because he wants to be just boyfriend & girlfriend, but refuses to go to couple’s therapy. Among his many reasons for not wanting to marry her, the gems that particularly stand out are that she’s a smoker (and has been since they met), has rough hands from her job, is too involved with her hobbies, and he doesn’t think she dresses well.

    When the OP asks why he loves her, he gives four reasons; she cooks, cleans, gives back rubs, and is in love with him. Also he has apparently never paid her a compliment, and only pays $600/month towards their $1,900 rent. She pays all other bills in full, and earns a whopping $500/month more than him. Oh, and he supposedly has porn & masturbation addiction, but didn’t like it when she sent him a picture of her boobs to spice things up and got angry when she suggested watching porn together (whore-madonna complex, anyone?).

    To be honest, if it is true, neither of them sound like winners (she set up a hidden microphone, recorded him masturbating, asked him if he’d done so whilst she’d been out, and then revealed the tape recording when he denied it). But now she’s on WB, trawling for success stories from people who had their engagements broken more than once.

    Sweetie, no. Just no.
     
  4. Lh718

    Lh718 Chicken

    Re: Engagement broken twice. Will the relationship work out?

    This is a whole new low. I may not have the highest self-esteem, but I can't imagine feeling so worthless that I would sit around waiting for that assbag to marry me.
     
  5. Re: Engagement broken twice. Will the relationship work out?

    O.O

    Wow. They both sound... Interesting.
     
  6. Honey

    Honey Historian Staff Member

    Re: Engagement broken twice. Will the relationship work out?

    Who the fuck is this guy? Jerry Seinfeld?
     
  7. MissM

    MissM Chicken

    Re: Engagement broken twice. Will the relationship work out?

    Oh man I read this earlier today and am so glad someone brought it up. I feel bad for the girl because this dude seems like a giant douche, but she also needs someone to smack her so she can wake up and cut him loose for good. For real this time
     
  8. Fitz

    Fitz Leslie Knope Monster

    Re: Engagement broken twice. Will the relationship work out?

    She needs a best friend to tell her like it is.... NOT waiting bees who will insist she stay.
     
  9. Husband chooses brother's graduation over first born's birth

    OP is pregnant and her DH's brother is graduating around the same time she is due. Her husband has decided he'd rather go watch his brother graduate than be present for the birth of his own child!
    I know she's probably not going to give birth on the same day he graduates anyway, but WTF?! He'd rather sit in a fucking chair and watch his brother get handed a piece of paper than be there to support his wife, watch his child being born and possibly make medical decisions if it comes to that. Dude sounds like a winner.
     
  10. sweatermuffins

    sweatermuffins Chicken

    Re: Husband chooses brother's graduation over first born's b

    Uhhh, if that happened to me, I don't think I'd be able to guarantee the safety of my husband. Graduations are very important, but they are also very formulaic and, well, boring.
     
  11. Re: Husband chooses brother's graduation over first born's b

    It gets worse, apparently he expects her to drive without a license (it was revoked for medical reasons) with her 6 year old, while in labour and then deliver by herself, because she doesn't speak to her family, and when she pointed all this out, on top of the fact that he would be 3 hours away, his response was 'But If you want me there I will miss my brother's graduation'.

    Ugh.
     
  12. sweatermuffins

    sweatermuffins Chicken

    Re: Husband chooses brother's graduation over first born's b

    Of course TTR, M.D. is able to diagnose his condition - he just has a case of "Daddy Brain." Adorable.
     
  13. Fitz

    Fitz Leslie Knope Monster

    Re: Husband chooses brother's graduation over first born's b

    Does he not know how boring graduations are?
     
  14. CoolWife

    CoolWife Chicken

    Re: Husband chooses brother's graduation over first born's b

    Oh my gosh, I read that earlier. At first I thought surely it was HIS OWN graduation and it was in town so he just wanted the 4 hours to himself and could leave if her water broke. No - it's 3 hours out of town and he'd be stuck waiting on mom and dad for a ride. He finally said he'd skip it if she really wanted him to but totally didn't get the idea of him being there FOR HER.
     
  15. chalupa batman

    chalupa batman Chicken

    Re: Husband chooses brother's graduation over first born's b

    I just snorted while drinking wine. It was painful, but worth it.
     
  16. gimmeoatmeal

    gimmeoatmeal Chicken

    Re: Husband chooses brother's graduation over first born's b

    LOL, if this was said to me, I'd just stand there, and be all:

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  17. snarktopus

    snarktopus Chicken

    Re: Husband chooses brother's graduation over first born's b

    what. the. fuck.
     
  18. sunyourbuns

    sunyourbuns Chicken

    Re: Husband chooses brother's graduation over first born's b

    Jesus. I don't even think I want kids, but I would go she-devil ugly on my husband if he ever even said that. She's suppose to drive herself & her six year old there without a license & then what? Let the six year old chill in the hospital bed with her while she's giving birth?

    It would be the kind of screaming you only see on an episode of COPS.
     
  19. catomd

    catomd Chicken

    Re: Husband chooses brother's graduation over first born's b

    Maybe if the brother was the rocket scientist valedictorian who was giving some big graduation speech at Harvard, I'd be a little more understanding. But, the kid took 5 years in undergrad.

    This guy sounds like a grade A douche, especially after the "But, if you want me there I won't go." This cannot be a happy marriage they're in.
     
  20. kthom

    kthom Cute Food <3

    Re: Husband chooses brother's graduation over first born's b


    Wait wait wait wait...hold up.
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    DRIVE HERSELF? :eek:
     
  21. TaterTot

    TaterTot Rulebitch

    Re: Husband chooses brother's graduation over first born's b

    We live five minutes via residential roads from the hospital where I delivered and . . . just no. Not even then.
     
  22. CoolWife

    CoolWife Chicken

    Re: Husband chooses brother's graduation over first born's b

    My niece showed up 3 weeks early, during the last week my brother was planning to travel out of town (thankfully, he had quit flying, just driving distance). My SIL drove herself to the hospital. Except she has a license and no other children to pack up, buckle in, and deal with once she got there. This guy is either a grade A self involved ass or so clueless he needs some loooong lessons on life, marriage, and parenthood.
     
  23. Seymour

    Seymour Chicken

    Re: Husband chooses brother's graduation over first born's b

    I browsed her previous posts and this guy has a history of being a selfish asshole. I feel bad for her
     
  24. Lh718

    Lh718 Chicken

    Re: Husband chooses brother's graduation over first born's b

    That is pretty much what I expected. It's one thing for him to have the initial expectation in his head then realize that it's a dumb idea, but it's quite another for him to keep on discussing and defending his stance. That can only come from someone who is pretty fucking selfish.
     
  25. Re: Husband FORBIDS bee from quitting 2nd job

    I think my husband is going to quit his job. Uh oh!

    Aquaria (message) February 13, 2013

    The poor guy has gotten a total of 5 hours of sleep since Friday. He's been threatening to quit for months but I think he's really fed up this time. We both rely on his paycheck to stay afloat. I don't know if we'd be able to continue living in our house if he gave up this job and worked somewhere else. I want him to keep working there for financial reasons, but at the same time I hate seeing him like this. He hasn't had a chance to shower or shave or comb his hair and quite frankly he looks like a bum (thank goodness he keeps deodorant and Febreeze in his work van!). Not a good impression to make when you go into a customer's home. Should I ask him to stay? Quit? What would a good wife do?
    5 hours ago (reply) Flag

    Read more: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/i-th ... z2qsosRX7d

    WTF? A good wife wouldn't allow her husband to dictate that she work 1.5 jobs. Really?!?!