Mother Hens

Discussion in 'The Hens' Nest' started by user63, Apr 3, 2014.

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  1. CoolWife

    CoolWife Chicken

    Mine has just generally been more of an asshole the older he gets, but the hangry does really fuck with them.
     
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  2. Afishwish

    Afishwish Bramblebutt

    This is one of those parenting days where my only consolation is that at least he’s not vivisecting animals.
     
  3. Honey

    Honey Historian Staff Member

    No head trauma, firestarting or bedwetting either, right? You’re doing great!
     
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  4. Afishwish

    Afishwish Bramblebutt

    Well by that standard I’m rocking this shit.
     
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  5. CoolWife

    CoolWife Chicken

    Ah shit, both of mine still piss the bed.
     
  6. Honey

    Honey Historian Staff Member

    At this age, "not showing signs of becoming a psychopath" is the best any parent can hope for.
     
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  7. megatron

    megatron Wordsmith Staff Member

    A few months ago, A was hitting us and other kids at day home more often, and we kept trying to relate back to Daniel Tiger’s “It’s ok to feel angry. It’s not, not, not ok to hurt someone.” And she would say this too, so we were trying to reinforce it.

    One day she says that and then pauses and says “But I like to hurt people.”

    So that’s great :wall:
     
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  8. CoolWife

    CoolWife Chicken

    Hahahaha, YEP. "I will smash zoom school. I hate it." (He smashed his iPad quite literally)
     
  9. Afishwish

    Afishwish Bramblebutt

    My in-laws told me a couple days ago (when I was mid-tears and REALLY done), that I let him run the house too much and I’m doing an 80% good job of parenting him.

    Today I was getting ready and they were taking care of him. He flipped out during a game they were playing, and watching them helplessly flail was a Pyrrhic victory. They got to deal with the tantrum and hear him try to micro lawyer his way out of consequences. I, Parent-Who-Engages-Him-Too-Much, was the one dishing out consequences and giving them Do Not Engage orders.
     
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  10. CoolWife

    CoolWife Chicken

    I’m glad my ILs say that shit in a language I can’t understand because I’m old enough to not give a fuck anymore. I stopped her mid sentence a couple times last time she was here.
    Sorry yours were sucks (autocorrect dicks* but I’ll take it). Hopefully they’ve recognized their hubris and come to apologize.
     
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  11. Lh718

    Lh718 Chicken

    JFC @Afishwish . Fuck them so hard for that bullshit. I guarantee they had lots of times feeling like 80% was way too high an ask for them. I am livid for you.
     
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  12. Afishwish

    Afishwish Bramblebutt

    They felt really bad when they saw how upset I was, and to their credit you can have a discussion on this stuff with them, which puts them way ahead of my parents. I think they are realizing that they are out of their depth with him when it comes to his challenging behaviors. Complicating this is the fact that FIL takes Fry’s acting out VERY personally. Socially emotionally the kid is about 3, which is easy to forget because he’s big and really smart. Plus I think they disregard the ASD element a lot. Unfortunately he’s been a jerk to grandpa. My FIL has kidney cancer which is very slow growing, but he is very wrapped up in his own mortality right now, and therefore is extra hurt by Fry’s behavior. FIL then either interacts less with the kid or is antagonistic, which is not helping matters.
     
  13. CoolWife

    CoolWife Chicken

    Grandparents seem to think either they can fix anything and everything or their is nothing wrong with their precious grandchildren.
    I’m glad they’re human and at least willing to own up to being awful on occasion.
    I’m sure that, like us, you have a great care team of actual experts educated and with experience in their field who’s parenting advice is tailored to your child that you listen to much more than even the most well intentioned of grandparents.
    (Good Jeff Goldblum that was a sentence)
     
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  14. Afishwish

    Afishwish Bramblebutt

    Sentence is true though
    [​IMG]
     
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  15. Imabug1002

    Imabug1002 Chick pee

    I’m sorry they’re acting like that Fish.
     
  16. CoolWife

    CoolWife Chicken

    So this morning C2 woke up screaming at 3am. Put him in bed with us at 4am because shut up we're tired. He rolled around most of the rest of the morning, but we all dozed off and on. My alarm goes off at 7. "Mommy's alarm goes BEEP BEEP BEEP." Yes, it does, go back to sleep. "Mommy's alarm went off. It goes BEEP BEEP BEEP. I want to get up. Take my sleep sack off. Where's the brown bear? Where's Daddy's bear?" Ok, ok, I'm up. Take C1 to the bus stop. Drive, since he was late waiting for D to print Mew coloring pages for everyone in the class (sweet, but really right when we need to leave?). Chat for a bit with the neighbors. Come home, and C2 is literally waiting by the back door with his lunch and backpack (that contains only his Bear). "Hi Mommy! I'm ready to go to school!" Cool, let's go. Drop him off, go to the dollar store because the neighbor told me how great the one past daycare is. Don't even finish my shopping before I get a call that he barfed all over, please come get him.
    So he's home again, Bear is getting a bath along with his shoes and everything else. Started work at 10am. MIL is still here, thank goodness, so he's with her and is totally fine.
    TFIG!
     
  17. megatron

    megatron Wordsmith Staff Member

    Damn, rough morning! I hope C2 feels better soon and you all can get a decent sleep tonight.
     
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