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Discussion in 'The Hens' Nest' started by user63, Apr 3, 2014.

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  1. Honey

    Honey Historian Staff Member

    Why have we still not invented a safe sleep straightjacket?
     
  2. CoolWife

    CoolWife Chicken

    They have and they used it until she could roll over, but getting stuck on your face without the use of your arms is the problem. I think the Snoo really straps them down but it’s $$$$$ and only useful for a couple months.
     
  3. Honey

    Honey Historian Staff Member

    I think I've heard that the straps that come with the Snoo aren't meant for overnight use or something? Like, we're still not allowed to just tie them down. :lol:
     
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  4. Lh718

    Lh718 Chicken

    "Allowed"
     
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  5. Afishwish

    Afishwish Bramblebutt

    We’ve tried to set realistic expectations to Fry on what life with a new baby sister will be like. He likes to share his understanding of the situation by saying things like “newborn babies are boring”, “they only eat, sleep, and cry”, “you’ll give me less attention but daddy will give more”. Despite all this, he’s really excited about his baby sister. He loves feeling her kicks and absolutely lights up. It’s so sweet, and makes me so glad I got pregnant when I did; earlier I don’t think he’d have been in a social-emotional enough place developmentally to comprehend all this.
     
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  6. CoolWife

    CoolWife Chicken

    That’s so sweet. C1 is such a good big brother that it melts me. We were afraid he’d be jealous since he’s so attached to me but he looooves the baby and his big brother role.
     
  7. Lh718

    Lh718 Chicken

    I get some heart melty stories at work. Today, 4yr old big brother was crying to mom about how he wished they were all home so he could hug baby brother all night. Ngl I teared up some.
     
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  8. CoolWife

    CoolWife Chicken

    C2 barfed allll over. Normal. I take him to change us both. Unzip his pjs. Important to note here that D did bath tonight, before I gave the baby the bottle we ended up wearing.

    He. Is. Not. Wearing. A. DIAPER.
     
  9. Lh718

    Lh718 Chicken

    OMJG that could have been so much worse :eek::lol:
     
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  10. virgo

    virgo Chicken

    Dude, no. :no:
     
  11. megatron

    megatron Wordsmith Staff Member

  12. CoolWife

    CoolWife Chicken

    We both laughed our asses off about it because what can you do.
    Parenting 101: put a diaper on it. :lol:
     
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  13. Afishwish

    Afishwish Bramblebutt

    That was a close one
     
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  14. Afishwish

    Afishwish Bramblebutt

    We came home today. Fry is SO sweet with minnow. Constantly kissing her and cooing over her little ears, little feeties, etc.

    When we’d left the hospital she’d lost a lot of weight; my milk took 5 days to come in last time, this time might be similar. The pediatrician wasn’t alarmed, but said if there were fewer than 3 wet diapers, give her a bottle of formula. We only hit 2, so decided on formula. I appreciate that the pediatrician didn’t dick around with milk purism, unlike the lactation consultants, whose suggestions were all way more complicated (donor milk, pump like your life depends on it, etc). I know there are awesome LCs out there, and they do a lot of good, but fuck if I was in the same fragile headspace as last time I would be a mess trying to do what the LCs said.
     
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  15. megatron

    megatron Wordsmith Staff Member

    I’m glad to hear that! We supplemented with S when he was in the NICU, while I pumped to bring my milk in. It worked great, and once my milk was in, we moved fully to BFing and didn’t need the formula anymore. I’m glad doctors/LCs are being more realistic for you this time. It’s a hard enough transition as it is!
     
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  16. Lh718

    Lh718 Chicken

    Our LC's are...not...reasonable like that. It drives me crazy. I'm glad your experience was much better this time @Afishwish !
     
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  17. CoolWife

    CoolWife Chicken

    It’s such a huge difference with the second kid. I was already in therapy and medicated so that helped too, but just knowing I had choices was empowering.
    LC’s can be a great resource but you have to find the right one. One in the NICU was a huge bitch but a couple of the others were great. I love our Ped who told me to feed him hot Cheetos and root beer if that’s all he’d eat.
     
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  18. Afishwish

    Afishwish Bramblebutt

    Honestly quoting the pediatrician was what did it. I’m not positive on what level of reasonable we’d have had from the LCs otherwise. One told me today I should be pumping ever 3 hours even if I miss a feeding. Lady, if a supplemental feeding allows me to get a full sleep cycle in, I’m doing that.
     
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  19. CoolWife

    CoolWife Chicken

    With C2 I just refused to get up in the middle of the night to pump. Like nfw am I doing every 3 hours all night and 2 during the day like they guilted me into the first time.

    Yesterday C1 lost his first tooth and C2 got his first tooth poking through the day before. So funny how exactly they synced that up.
     
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  20. shakespeer

    shakespeer Basic Pirate Lesbian Aesthete

    I just did the coursework to become an IBCLC (haven’t sat for the exam, still deciding if I want to) and I rolled my eyes so hard at some of the suggestions. They were talking about “problematic” formula donations were in the midst of a natural disaster and... uh... pretty sure that’s nuts?
     
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  21. Afishwish

    Afishwish Bramblebutt

    I want you to take the exam for this reason.
     
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  22. Afishwish

    Afishwish Bramblebutt

    Today Fry picked out a super girlie pink ruffled onesie for Minnow. She was nursing with this super intense scowl and in that outfit, and for some reason it just looked hilarious to me.
     
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  23. Afishwish

    Afishwish Bramblebutt

    Minnow REM sleeps sometimes with her eyes open, and it’s a really strange sight.
     
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  24. Afishwish

    Afishwish Bramblebutt

    We found out Minnow has Alpha-1. I really thought the odds were in our favor here and she was unlikely to get it. We’ll get her a hepatology referral and monitor her just like we do for Fry. The good news is she’s obviously thriving; she’s plump, rosy, and happy.

    Still a bummer, though.
     
  25. megatron

    megatron Wordsmith Staff Member

    I’m sorry fish. That’s hard to find out, especially when you were so hopeful it was otherwise. She seems like such a happy baby and is clearly thriving <3

    We are actually waiting to find out news on S. He’s had gross motor delays and low muscle tone (we’ve been working with a pediatric physiotherapist since he was 11 months old). He is happy and doing great with progressing in physio, but is still a small guy. I wasn’t overly worried but we got blood work back recently that shows elevated muscle enzymes. This fits with his gross motor delays and low muscle tone, so we are retesting soon and then if it’s still high, we will get referred to a specialist. They would be looking for indications of some type of genetic muscular dystrophy. So, it’s been a bit of an emotional roller coaster for me, but we don’t know anything for sure. He’s happy, he eats lots, he’s doing great with physio, and he’s super chatty and babbles a lot. Just trying to focus on all that, not the potential chronic illness/condition that might or might not be something he (and we) has to live with. And it’s a spectrum so even if he has it, it could be minimal or it could be severe. We just don’t know. It’s hard not to think about though.
     
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