Discussion in 'The Hens' Nest' started by user63, Apr 3, 2014.
Rainbows. Narwhals. Dinosaurs.
I considered strawberry patch because that’s her favorite food. Cute or not so much?
Minnie Mouse, giraffes, flamingoes.
I am definitely considering giraffes because of her Sophie obsession
Strawberries are adorable!!!
In your strawberry patch idea vein, Strawberry Shortcake?
Or maybe like a safari theme? For an activity you can hide stuffed animals around for her to find/spot?
What about Strawberries AND giraffes?
Giraffes with strawberry spots.
This is the cutest thing I’ve ever heard.
Help. C1 fell asleep on the couch before dinner. Woke him up and he won’t stop sobbing. C2 was also screaming but D took him to another room. Wtf kid, I woke you up for tacos (which obvs he refused).
eta OMJG he finally let me give him some applesauce and a hug and stopped crying.
Uugh. Waking napping children is always a disaster, at least over here. Damned if you do, damned if you dont. Sorry I'm glad D was home to help at least!
They're seriously like little fault lines when they wake up. One wrong move and the entire morning/afternoon/evening is ruined (until they finally eat something like you've been trying to get them to do for the past 45 minutes).
For real. I wake him up in the morning and I get a huge hug and kisses. From a nap? Caution. Usually he gets it together after a few minutes but last night even after he went back to the couch to wake up and calm down he just kept crying more and more.
Same for me tho
This morning rooster came in and said to me, “would you like to know what you look like when you wake up?”.
It was a video of Fry waking up from his nap. I...did see some parallels.
Ok but why the shade RoosterFish?
Apparently I was demonstrating a bit of sleepy bear syndrome
I'm coming here to whine. And maybe get some advice.
Ever since coming back from our social distanced vacay, M has been HORRIBLE about going to sleep. She's been requesting "rocks!" every night, so I'll rock her for about 10-20 minutes, no big deal, I like the snuggle time. We play her favorite sleep music, I sing our sleep song, I do the rocks, I put her down, we do our good night ritual. But its after that that everything goes downhill fast. She just...refuses....to go to sleep. She's up. She wants more rocks, She wants to talk about her blankie, etc.. Things will get quiet for 10 minutes and then "mama? mama?! MAMAAAAAAAAAA". I'm trying to talk her down, but most nights if I want any sleep, I have to go back in 1-3 more times to re-lay her down. She used to be so good about sleeping. And I feel the vacation threw her off. She is 2. Is this a two thing? I want my golden sleeper child back.
~signed, cranky pants mama
I’m sorry. Nobody likes sleep deprivation.
I am in no way qualified here, but this is the internet, so I have a couple thoughts.
I don’t think it would be terrible to explain to her as you put her to bed that this is it, you will snuggle, and then 100% bedtime. She won’t like it, but she was a good sleeper before, she can do it again!
Another thought might be some sort of soother that holds her interest before bed that doesn’t require you to be there?
@Doom&Sparkles this same thing happened to E in like March, Right at about 2.5 years old right at the beginning of the pandemic. I think our “new normal” threw her off even though her bedtime and night routine stayed the same. It was hell on Earth for a while and I did the same as you—going back in, telling her it’s night night time, we have to close eyes and go to sleep. Sometimes I would rock her again. I got desperate and eventually told her no cry no yell, we have to go to bed. I would ask her okay what’re we going to do now? And she would say no cry mama dada which sounds sad but I was like okay she’s at least understanding.
Sometimes she would cry it out, usually I would go back in and offer water and retuck in but keep her in the crib. Eventually she got it but I have no clue what worked.
I think your M will get back on track, but it’s an awful time. Sorry lady.
We are in this right now, a few weeks before she turns two. Takes her naps perfectly but FIRMLY needs two attempts for bedtime every single night. If we try to be firm/let her cry she gets so hysterical we feel like it’s not okay so we just end up going back in there anyway. She also almost always wakes up around 5 or 6 am and needs to be helped back down. It’s brutal and I’m really hoping it’s just a temporary regression. Tried moving her bedtime back a bit but so far that’s not helping.
Just keep being firm and consistent with routine and she will re-adjust. Travel throws them off! Bedtime will keep throwing new challenges at you so set boundaries and hold to them as best you can (as an example, J doesn't sleep in our bed, that's the rule - it sucks when we have to get up to take him back to bed and settle him again but it maintains that boundary). Adjust accordingly when needed, just maintain consistency and communicate every step to her too. Even at almost 5 we still have to discuss every single step of the evening routine every single night and lots of time warnings, planned ignoring, etc to get to the end.
Both my kids went through this, starting at around that age. M grew out of it pretty quickly for the most part. L still hasn't really grown out of it but it's not consistently every night any more. No advice, but in my experience it's normal/a phase (with an unknown end date).
thank you all for your advice and commiserations. Last night I managed to get her down with only 2 additional re-laying downs. I should add that right after we got back from the vacation she was impossible to put to sleep AND to keep asleep...she'd wake up screaming for me in the middle of the night. So we have progressed from that, but I don't want this to become a new pattern.
I'm also a bit worried that its because I'm a bad mom and don't spend enough dedicated time with her...and she's wanting that extra time with me at night. I work from home and have a side hustle, and while my workspace is literally right in the living room, its obv not the same as playing with her.
You’re not a bad mom! That’s hard, you’re human, and you can’t give 100% of your attention to all those things at the same time. I don’t know how the hell families with both parents working are doing it right now.