A did this thing where he’ll say “don’t yell at me!” When I am talking in a normal speaking voice. I had many times told him it pissed me off because saying something he didn't want to hear was not the equivalent of yelling. I had to SNAP and was like “THIS IS YELLING! DO YOU HEAR THIS? IS THIS WHAT I WAS DOING?” and then he got it. I told him if it happened again I was gonna start recording our convos. Serious pet peeve of mine- just because you don’t wanna hear it it listen doesn’t mean I’m yelling/being bitchy.
Or he has the TV up so loud he can’t hear me so I speak louder to get his attention since I can’t go to the other room. Also not yelling at him. Seriously, everything he is doing today is just making me more annoyed. He just asked when my video call was so he knows to be quiet. I asked him if he intended to not be quiet during my other calls because we already covered I have meetings from 1-5. He was apparently going to be “extra quiet” during the video call? Either way, he will probably play his videos games loud enough I can hear them over my headphones even though I tell him it’s too loud.
Can he ...not use headphones when playing video games?! We've had issues here when we both had a call / video call for work at the same time and we did the best we could to keep the noise to ourselves, but playing video games is not required so he can either not do that or put on some fucking headphones.
YEP YEP YEP. Thats why I threatened the recording too. Like if you get snippy with me you KNOW i’m not gonna respond all golly gee shucks so don’t fuss.
Ok I’m thinking of this thread right now because W said something to me (asking if I had given Lucy a pill, then the same about Bunk, when I had to leave work early to get Lucy from daycare because he left his work late, and I had no extra time) that felt judgmental and I said so. He said he didn’t mean it that way and apologized. Then I went to the bathroom and the upstairs toilet seat is askew as it has been for months and I said, so remember that you said you were going to fix this? Can you do that? And he said “Now THAT sounds judgey” and I am not here for this faux quid pro quo.
J has had an attitude all day too and I'm over it. Not sure who pissed in his Cheerios. You've had the day off and the only thing I asked of you was to take the kids out while I had my virtual graduation ceremony for my class, and according to him, the kids were both really well behaved during that so... idk what his problem is. He was just angry typing, even though he claims "that's just how I type." No it's not.
We started quarantine a few weeks before most of you did, and most of these posts are reminding me of our irritability with each other a few weeks ago.
Yeah this week is 3 months for us. J still works outside the house so he isn't around all the time but when he is and I'm working there are definitely minor annoyances. This week we're doing a big user testing session remotely for the first time for a very important project so the stuff I typically ignore or roll my eyes at I can't because I'm on video calls and talking way more so I think it's just everything that's been bothering me for 3 months is ready to come out. Good times. My boss was asked recently if we could work remotely forever to save office space since it's been "so good" for the past 3 months and I don't know if I could handle that in our current setup.
D has been WFM since mid-March. Today is the first day he’s working in the office. That’s the room he insisted he needed so I couldn’t make it a craft room. But no, he’s been sitting in the family room 2’ from all C1’s toys, at the kitchen table (only a few feet further), or in the bedroom. Then getting all huffy when the kids make any noise or I ask him if he’s free to like, hold the baby. He’s been complaining that he doesn’t get as much work done at home, even though he’s online from 7-6 most days. I finally lost it and told him to fuck off to the office and I didn’t want him to be asking me to sit down for any more hour-long convos about what we need from IKEA for the kids’ closets. Yes you have to work and I don’t, but caring for a baby and preventing a 5 year old from destroying the place is hard enough without the “helpful” suggestions to say, get up at 5:30 or 6am to shower while everyone else is still asleep instead of asking him to give the baby a pacifier a couple times while I get cleaned up.
So where are we placing the mass grave of useless men? I have a concrete slab potentially already serving that use.
This is why, despite the risk of COVID, I have picked up jobs at 3 breweries within the last week. Thank Jeff Goldblum, I had to get out of the house.
Must be a full moon or Mercury in retrograde or something else on top of the pandemic, for all of us to suddenly be fighting! W and I aren't usually snippy either.
Seriously, I’m the least woo person I know but mercury is a cruel bitch and this 100% explains what’s going on.
K and I never fight but this week/last weekend has been a little more snippy than normal between us. Still no actual fights but more tension. I think me being out of the house a lot more will be helpful.
This is being discussed a lot in my world. Employers that think they will save 100% of their office space costs are delusional. One, employees will need bigger homes/apartments to be truly effective, which will have to come in the form of higher pay. Two, wait until the labor and employment attorneys find their test cases for all the costs that employees (particularly non-exempt) are effectively burdened with right now.