Discussion in 'The Hens' Nest' started by PerilousPoozer, Jun 14, 2014.
I never read it and managed to get knocked up.
You could always check it out from the library to read and see if it is worth owning?
Or it seems to be pretty cheap used online
My point is you don't need to have it on hand to know how to get pregnant. If you don't want to spend the $$, FF has a bunch of stuff with the same information, as do most fertility apps now.
I preferred The Impatient Woman's Guide to Getting Pregnant by Dr.Jean Twenge. I mean, did not cause me to get pregnant quickly, but the info was good haha. I just throw that out there because TCOYF was not one I could get through and TIWGTGP felt more like a friend talking to me about her own journey and using statistics/science/facts in a less clinical and more conversational way. (Not trying to knock TCOYF as I know people love it, just saying instead of buying one I’d maybe rent a few in case TCOYF is not the one that connects for you). ALSO went to see if the kindle version was still around and TIWGTGP is free with an audible trial via amazon right now
Didn't read any books myself (possibly read the entire internet of course), but I found a fertility app to be a massive help. I really liked Ovia, but I know a lot of others I know liked Fertility Friend.
I understand that but I do want to read it because I basically know nothing. My phone is also a butt about downloading new apps and I am not really someone who likes apps anyway, I prefer a book etc.
I've heard that TCOYF is good, but a bit dry as a read, and The impatient woman's guide to getting pregnant is a bit more fun, and an easier read although also good for information. I can't personally vouch for either, but you could always try an audible free trial so you don't spend £ on something you just don't get along with?
I read TCOYF once and went back to reference it when we actually started trying. It’s a bit dry, but had useful information that I didn’t know. I used it to get pregnant in conjunction with fertility friend. I felt like I understood what I was looking for in my body and in my temps to figure out when to try to get knocked up.
The TCOYF app sucks though. FF is much better. I read everything a bunch mostly because I wasn’t getting pregnant.
Update to previous post: period decided to show up today. On the first day my preschool students come to school. And it's giving me nauseating cramps. Great. But yay?
@A. Ham I know you asked specifically about TCOYF but I found that I got really great info from the TTC subreddit.
@Apples&Oranges congratulations on your period. I hope it's not too sucky.
TCOYF was okay but I'm glad I borrowed instead of purchased. I think FF was more helpful because then you look at your own data.
I support FF forever
I really, really prefer to read rather than audio books--I am incapable of retaining any information from audio books!
I'm not ruling any of that out, just trying to find out how many times people here have read the book I have decided to read first.
I never read it, or any other fertility book. There is plenty of free information from reputable sources online, apps, friends, doctors, etc. If I were you, I’d just rent from the library. If you want it in your collection, you can always buy it later.
I know I just wanted to give you a little extra info in case you find TCOYF to not be satisfactory.
@A. Ham I am also in the know nothing camp I have picked up some things from friends but clearly not that much... I literally JUST learned when people talk about taking their temp they are not sticking a thermometer up their vagina.
Does everyone start with temps and cycle tracking and book reading? I track my period on my fitbit app and it tells me when i ovulate but I worry the book would make me obsess, then stress out and then the stress would stop me from getting gregnant.
I did temp at one point, but my cycle is super regular now and I can tell by CM when I ovulate, even with an IUD.
No, lots of people start by just tossing the BC and having sex and they end up just as gregnant as the book reading, cycle tracking, temperature takers*. All that stuff can increase your chances and it gives you an illusion of control over the whole process, but you don't HAVE to do it by any means. Plenty of people get pregnant without doing any of it.
*no shade, I did two of the three myself.
I started temping and tracking before we started TTC. I wanted to understand my cycle as best as I could so we would have the best chance every month. My cervical mucus probably would have been enough for me to tell, but not everyone has clear cervical mucus patterns.
I don’t regret temping or tracking because, like @Comet said, it gave me an element of control over the situation.
I just worry I will obsess if I start all that, if things dont happen after a few months of TTC thn I will probably do it anyways.
Don’t do it if it stresses you! It’s absolutely okay to try without it. Plenty of people do and they are successful.
The ovulation predictors in the apps are only as good as the info you give it. If I only tracked my periods, the app would tell me I’m ovulating around day 14 because I have a pretty consistent 28-29 day cycle. But I actually ovulate on day 18-20, so if we stopped having sex after I “ovulated on day 14 per the app”, my odds of getting pregnant would have been much lower. I wouldn’t have been able to confirm that without temping. But I also started temping and tracking my cycle 9 months before we wanted to try when I came off BC for other health reasons, so I knew my cycle better and could avoid sex / use other protection during the risky time of month until we were ready to try.
ETA: if it’s going to be stressful to track things, don’t. But also be aware that it could take a bit longer to get pregnant, or maybe it will happen quick. You just never know until you try.
I read TCOYF once. The app gave plenty of info though.
I mean @OhFFS some people do temp vaginally.
I tracked right away because otherwise the odds of us having sex at the right time were slim and I wanted to increase the chance of getting pregnant quickly as I was attempting to time it around my sports season. Definitely don't do it if it'll add stress though.