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Discussion in 'The Hens' Nest' started by Apples&Oranges, Apr 3, 2014.

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  1. A. Ham

    A. Ham Chicken

    My nephew has no butt, and hasn't yet learned that when his pants start to fall down he needs to pull them back up. When we all went down to visit them in August, my BIL and nephew were holding hands and crossed a road but the light changed so the rest of us got stuck across the road waiting, and nephew's pants just fell down. We were all calling out BIL's name (well, A and his dad were, SIL and SMIL and I were on the floor laughing) but BIL only noticed when nephew said 'Look what happened, Daddy!' Nephew was so totally chill about being pantless in the middle of the road. He's 5.
     
  2. whatchyagonnado

    whatchyagonnado Chicken

    We like to take family walks at night. I think it helps settle C for bed. However, C is in a HUGE “do myself” phase and part of that is insisting on running “by himself” on our walks (ie not holding hands or using a stroller). We just walk in our neighborhood so no main roads but we probably see 5 cars in our hour walk. I make him hold my hand and we stop walking if we hear or see a car, but it still is keeping me up at night with anxiety. A says we shouldn’t stop our walks because we always stay right next to C and are careful to keep him between us as well and watch for sounds of cars ect. but I hate that our fun family time now keeps me awake at night. Idk if I am being disproportionately anxious here.
     
  3. antisocialite

    antisocialite Chicken

    Do you live somewhere without sidewalks?

    From my experience, he isn't going to return to the stroller and it only gets to more and more "I'm gonna walk" as you go. So my recommendation would be to work on safety during the walks, however that looks. We have sidewalks so we did a lot of practicing stopping "at the black" (the road), you must hold hands to cross/in parking lots (he still has to do this), and you never step off the sidewalk without mom or dads permission. In parking lots he has to keep his hand on the gas tank cover while I get my stuff/lock the car. They catch on pretty quickly and that might give you more peace of mind as you see him learning/repeating the rules.
     
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  4. MagnificentCat

    MagnificentCat Chicken

    Maybe if he doesn’t want to hold your hand, have something between you that you both hold. Like “dolly wants to come, but we both need to help dolly by holding their hands.” So you’re keeping him near but not forcing him to hold your hand.
     
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  5. RoryGilmore

    RoryGilmore Chicken

    Oh, that phase stinks for adults. C was anti-hand hold during walks for maybe four days until she realized it was part of the routine. Something that helped her was seeing G and I hold hands, so she knew it wasn’t just a thing for babies - we were all partaking in it.
     
  6. moose

    moose RINGWORM GIRL :(

    Finished our ped appointment and E gained 5oz since Monday!
     
  7. Dorothygale

    Dorothygale Chicken

    For walks, we pick out markers, like a driveway, tree, mailbox, etc that E is allowed to run to but she has to freeze and wait for us once she gets to it, and then we'll pick out the next one. If we want her to hold our hands but she's not in the mood for it, we offer to swing her up in the air, it always gets her really excited to the point she just wants to keep swinging even long after we've grown tired of it. Obviously that one only works if you're both there.
     
  8. Kimmers

    Kimmers Chicken

    Yay mini moose!!! Grow baby grow. <3<3
     
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  9. Tumnus

    Tumnus Chicken

    We do that with S when he's riding his bike. "Pretend that mailbox is a stop sign! Yay, now the bush is a stop sign!" It made me nervous when we first started going out and letting him walk on his own because I just kept seeing images in my head of something awful happening. As we've done it more my anxiety has gone down. I'm still very cautious but it isn't causing a lot of anxiety now.

    Would a backpack leash work? Allow a bit of freedom but still be in control?
     
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  10. whatchyagonnado

    whatchyagonnado Chicken

    Ah these are all such good suggestions! Thank you all! (Also @antisocialite much jealous of your sidewalks! He does know he has to hold my leg/hand in parking lots so hopefully whatever rules we set up for walks he picks up quick!)

    Yay baby moose!
     
  11. nym711

    nym711 THIS IS MY LIFE NOW

    E is also growing independent on walks. She wanted to walk down our cul-de-sac mostly by herself and walked into a parked car. The neighbor kid who lives at the house with the parked car kicked a football into it so :shrug:

    Also, my nextdoor neighbor hates that kid, and I'm starting to see why. As E and I were walking, he kicked the football towards E. His mom was there too. She apologized on his behalf.
     
  12. whatchyagonnado

    whatchyagonnado Chicken

    @Tumnus that is our plan if he doesn’t get with the program quick haha

    @nym711 ugh little brat! (Football kid, not E). I’m glad the mom at least apologized. Irks me so bad when the parents just shrug. A kid pushed C at the Childrens Museum the other day and I looked around to murder his mother with my glance but she was OFC nowhere to be seen.
     
  13. A. Ham

    A. Ham Chicken

    I remember my grandmother asking to hold my hand, I said "dad already is!" And she replied "but no one is holding MY hand." Totally worked.
     
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  14. Apples&Oranges

    Apples&Oranges Chicken

    Yeah, we had a few meltdowns over it, but if D wanted to walk he had to hold my hand or the stroller. Doesnt hold on, doesn't get to walk.
     
  15. moose

    moose RINGWORM GIRL :(

    How do I do tummy time with a 2 week old, position-wise?
     
  16. CoolWife

    CoolWife Chicken

    Oh her tummy?

    Even just on your chest counts though.
     
  17. megatron

    megatron Wordsmith

    When they are still so small, I’d just focus on putting her on your chest, and leaning back so she has to start lifting her head up to look around.
     
  18. moose

    moose RINGWORM GIRL :(

    We’ve been putting her on our chests with her head turned to different sides and letting her lift as she can. I wasn’t sure if head turned counted as tummy time because face down sounds suffocate-y.
     
  19. CoolWife

    CoolWife Chicken

    Nah you’re good. The idea is to start working on those neck muscles, all it takes is lifting up their little bobble heads a few times a day.
     
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  20. moose

    moose RINGWORM GIRL :(

    She really is a bobble
     
  21. antisocialite

    antisocialite Chicken

    J is walking around singing "it's always some dirty fucker" and I'm so...proud.

    Another parenting medal for my collection I'm sure.
     
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  22. Canaligator

    Canaligator Barbie Police

    OMJG you are #goals
     
  23. RoryGilmore

    RoryGilmore Chicken

    C didn’t cry at all during her flu shot today. Like, she barely even noticed it. I even asked the nurse “You.. did it already?” since I was really banking on a reaction. She truly earned the coloring book I got her as a reward.
     
  24. CoolWife

    CoolWife Chicken

    The last two years my C was totally fine with the flu shot. He even asked to go back for another two years ago. This year, not so much. He did not want to go, and then complained about how much it hurt. I had to bribe him with a cake pop to even sit still for it. (Thanks for the big sign right by the pharmacy, Starbucks. :roll: )
     
  25. A. Ham

    A. Ham Chicken

    I think a cake pop WOULD make shots easier tbh might need to get my flu jab near a Starbucks
     

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