Discussion in 'The Hens' Nest' started by Apples&Oranges, Nov 1, 2017.

  1. MagnificentCat

    MagnificentCat Chicken

    What a huge difference a supportive work environment makes.

    First day of work:
    Me: So you know my son’s 6-months old? I’m going to need to lock the door to my office around this time.
    Boss: No problem, but you sure you wouldn’t prefer to use the mother’s room downstairs? Let us know if so so we can get you a key.

    Coworker knocks on door while I’m pumping so I ask if he can come back in 5-10 minutes.
    Co-worker (later): I am so, SO sorry about that. I didn’t even think... my wife when she went back to work... anyway, I am so sorry!

    Contrast this to when my coworkers would shout through the door “how much longer”, try to conduct business through the door, or stand outside my door until I was done. Apparently stress does impact milk production because I’m up 1-2 ounces and pumping in a much shorter time frame.
  2. scotchbutter

    scotchbutter Chicken

    That is FANTASTIC @MagnificentCat . You need a few (hundred) wins at work. Glad to hear it’s going so well!
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  3. Fitz

    Fitz Leslie Knope Monster

    So wonderful, I'm so happy for you Mag.
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  4. Kimmers

    Kimmers Chicken

    I swear every time I think I’m about to get my period back (endo pain starts showing up) L has a sleep regression or gets a new tooth or whatever, starts waking up a million times a night to nurse, and scares my period off.

    Yay for no period 12 months pp but damn I am tired this week.
  5. Comet

    Comet Instigator

    Any tips on keeping people from banging on your closed office door while pumping at work? And/or something to respond with that's not awkward AF? I don't necessarily want to announce to everyone that my boobs are out when they have already ignored the closed door.
  6. Honey

    Honey Historian Staff Member

    Well there goes my door plaque idea.

  7. whatchyagonnado

    whatchyagonnado Chicken

    I had a coworker use a whiteboard to denote where she was/if she was free. Could you do that? Then you could leave a note like “Currently unavailable or in meeting. Will be available starting at 3pm. Please email me if you need assistance before 3pm”

    I think that leaves it vague enough you could use it for conference calls and pumps and people hopefully aren’t rude enough to push it. My old boss would just open closed doors and one coworker had the one office that didn't lock and she was terrified he’d just come in. She hung a sign with a cow on it while pumping. That sounds more in your face than what you wanna do though haha
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  8. MagnificentCat

    MagnificentCat Chicken

    I wish I had a magic phrase, but at the old place they still tried to barge in even when they knew what was happening.

    It sucks and I’m sorry you have to deal with rude boundary-ignoring people who don’t think a closed door applies to them.
  9. RogueLlama

    RogueLlama Chicken

    People at my current job have been very polite, but were confused the first few days when my door was closed since it was a new thing. I just told them I had to pump and that seemed to work, but I worked with good people.

    I start a new job in a couple weeks and did confirm when I accepted that I would need a private place to pump and they gave me some options, but I’m dreading the first day of work where I have to go into my office and close the door while trying not to be super awkward.
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  10. Fitz

    Fitz Leslie Knope Monster

    @Comet I bought a white erase board for my door. I put my meeting times on it AND if I was pumping, I would write "PLEASE DO NOT DISTURB".
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  11. MagnificentCat

    MagnificentCat Chicken

    I think it’s going to be harder than I initially planned to give up the pump. This lactation room is a fucking spa.
  12. Comet

    Comet Instigator

    See also: things you never thought you'd say?
  13. MagnificentCat

    MagnificentCat Chicken

    Right? The reserve this room for an hour so I’m not rushed, and this is a mighty nice break before lunch.

    ETA: Except when some noisy Nancy on this floor knocks on the door! We have an airplane lavatory lock... don’t say you’re “just checking,” you know it’s being used!!!
    Last edited: Sep 24, 2019
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  14. Don't tell them you stopped, use it as an actual spa!
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  15. Lh718

    Lh718 Chicken

    Just checking what exactly? That someone didn't accidentally lock herself in?
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  16. MagnificentCat

    MagnificentCat Chicken

    There’s only one other person in our complex who has scheduled time and you’re supposed to schedule to be approved to use, so my best guess is it’s either them being noisy (‘who’s in my space?’) or someone who used to have the room and is still using it as a hideaway who has had their card be deactivated. Either way, next time I’m not responding and if they’re out there when I get done I’m going full condescension “was the lock that said ‘occupied’ not clear enough for you?”
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  17. hallokween

    hallokween Chicken

    I kind of hate breastfeeding. I feel like I’ve already forgotten what the LC showed me and my nipples hurt every time. She’s also cluster feeding and won’t go to K at all. I’m just so tired and after combo feeding with E it’s just so tempting to give it all up.
  18. deet

    deet Chicken

    So do it? I mean I know it's that simple but if you hate it & you're tired - especially with 2 kids & it'll make your life easier go for it!
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  19. TaterTot

    TaterTot Rulebitch

    Yeah. It’s hard. It’s up to you. You don’t need to justify or explain anything here. <3
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  20. CoolWife

    CoolWife Chicken

    The best thing you can do for your family is to take care of yourself. <3 If you don't want to - don't. If you'd feel better "trying" for a week or a month, do that and then reevaluate. If you know it's not for you and you'll be a better mom (of two!) when K can give her a bottle of Enfamil at 3am, you don't have to explain to anyone.
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  21. hallokween

    hallokween Chicken

    Yeah. I think I’ll give it until my milk comes in and reevaluate. I saw another LC this morning and her latches are not as painful now, but she has been on one of my boobs 100% of the day so far and just cries if she’s not. It’s a lot, but I’m feeling a little better.

    Formula still solidly on the table, though.
  22. Apples&Oranges

    Apples&Oranges Chicken

    Bfing is so super hard in the beginning, especially with another little one to care for too. If we had an accidental #3, I don't think I would choose to BF again unless the baby had some miracle easy latch. I'd pump until i was tired of it, then formula feed. Whatever works best for you is best.
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  23. Comet

    Comet Instigator

    I'm two weeks away from starting to taper off breastfeeding. I've got a lot of feels about it and I'm not in a hurry to get him off the boob, but deep down I know it's probably time... weaning should have a big positive impact on my prolapse symptoms.

    I think part of my anxiety is because I have no idea how to wean him. I don't know what formula we want to give him yet, how I should go about using up my frozen milk (use all up before starting any formula? feed him both for a while so he's getting boob, frozen milk, AND formula as we taper off the boob...seems complicated), and I've never even given him a bottle. I don't know the "rules" about formula like I do for breastmilk, etc. I know I can just Google some of this, but I haven't gotten around to it yet.

    Breastfeeding is the only thing that has come easily for me (physically at least) in this entire journey and I am really sad to give it up.
  24. MagnificentCat

    MagnificentCat Chicken

    Probably try formula before using up your stash to see if C takes to it. That way if he’s picky or you need to transition him, you won’t have the stress of finding something on a rapid deadline. M suddenly decided he hated the formula we previously used for late-night feedings back when he was a newborn.

    (I probably need to try a couple different samples we got, I guess mixed with breastmilk, but I’m afraid he’ll turn his nose up at it too.)
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  25. deet

    deet Chicken

    When I stopped pumping, I mixed the bottles until he was fully transitioned to formula. In my experience, the amount of formula did not change from his BM consumption.

    NGL - I tried my own milk & formula tastes heinous compared to it, but M didn't really seem to mind the difference. We used Similac Total Comfort with G ($$$$$$$$$$$) and with M we used Gerber Gentle.
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