Family: The Gift You Can’t Return

Discussion in 'The Hens' Nest' started by Scout, Jul 11, 2014.

  1. yesmaster

    yesmaster North of the Boarder

    It's a guy she met down there. They are fb official now. I had wondered if they were more than friends since he was showing up in her instagram stories a lot and seemed to be living with her. He is from there though, so I imagine that is going to make things a lot more complicated when/if she decides to come home
     
  2. moose

    moose RINGWORM GIRL :(

    Is she going to have the baby here or there? Because that will also make a big difference.
     
  3. yesmaster

    yesmaster North of the Boarder

    She is going to deliver over there. I messaged her privately because I feel like I need to acknowledge the announcement. She is happy so I am not going to harp on her. I also think her Father (my Uncle) has already blown up over this so she doesn't need any more negativity on top of it. I asked her a few questions. She said the current plan is to come home when the baby is 6 months old. I didn't ask if that is a permanent move home, if it is the three of them coming here or if she and the baby are just planning to visit.

    I keep reminding myself that everyone has a right to live their life as they want and this seems to be what she wants to do so I can't fault her for it. It is just such a hard path. I really hope she has thought this through.
     
  4. ClamJam

    ClamJam Chicken

    Does she have a good relationship with her partner’s family? Does she truly realize that baby is going to be a demanding, needy creature that needs her care to survive or is she thinking that the baby is going to be cute on IG like her temporary “step-daughter”?
     
  5. yesmaster

    yesmaster North of the Boarder

    I will say, she is really good with kids and has a lot of experience with babies. I don't worry about her neglecting the kid, she isn't anti-vax or anything like that. I don't think she is prepared for the financial burden she is getting into but I would argue she has a better understanding of the needs and demands of a baby than your average 22 year old. She has older half siblings so she became an Aunt when she was around 6 years old and is really involved with her nieces and nephews. I have no clue about any relationship she may have with the Fathers family. Hopefully he has a close family that is supportive and will be there for her. Although, that may also create an additional conflict if she tries to bring the baby back here permanently.
     
  6. scotchbutter

    scotchbutter Chicken

    That is A LOT. It must be very difficult to have to navigate a pregnancy from a brand new relationship in a foreign country.

    Hopefully he’s a nice guy, baby is healthy, and eventually returning to Canada as a family is an option.
     
  7. fantasynerd

    fantasynerd Extra Extra

    My sister has already taken her 3-year-old for a haircut and they all (including her husband who last month was again hospitalized for his Alcohol-induced chronic pancreatitis) went to IHOP. :bored:
     
  8. Honey

    Honey Historian Staff Member

    The thing that upsets me about this is, if you’re dying to go out to eat for just that little slice of normalcy, why IHOP?
     
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  9. Afishwish

    Afishwish Bramblebutt

    Seriously. It’s one of the most aggressively mediocre places you can eat.
     
  10. moose

    moose RINGWORM GIRL :(

    Don’t even get me started on IHOP. It just brings out the inner diner fanatic in me.
     
  11. HBC

    HBC Chicken

    They do have a really tasty omelette that I recreate at home
     
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  12. fantasynerd

    fantasynerd Extra Extra

    The last time I went to a concert I was craving blueberry in a complex carb, so we went to IHOP afterwards and the blueberry pancakes hit the spot. But that was in February, so.
     
  13. Apples&Oranges

    Apples&Oranges Chicken

    You're really goading her right now :lol::lol::lol:
     
  14. HBC

    HBC Chicken

    Good, I feel feisty
     
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  15. Chevere

    Chevere Chicken

    Do you put in pancake batter to make it fluffy?
     
  16. HBC

    HBC Chicken

    No, just plain old eggs.
     
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  17. Chevere

    Chevere Chicken

    Only asked because there was a lot of outrage when people realized that was why their omelettes weren't gluten free
     
  18. MagnificentCat

    MagnificentCat Chicken

    Now all I can think of is how much I want IHOP.
     
  19. HBC

    HBC Chicken

    Bacon temptation omelet, fruit, short stack
     
  20. moose

    moose RINGWORM GIRL :(

    how is this a craving anyone has ever
     
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  21. HBC

    HBC Chicken

    Because I like food?
     
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  22. Apples&Oranges

    Apples&Oranges Chicken

    You should definitely avoid diners then.



    :mrgreen:
     
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  23. HBC

    HBC Chicken

    I mean I’m going to order a patty melt, a bunch of fries, waffles, and some chicken tendies all at the same time and die happy.
     
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  24. moose

    moose RINGWORM GIRL :(

    Yas girl
     
  25. Kimmers

    Kimmers Chicken

    @HBC Noooo, IHOP has the worst omelette! Its an abomination (and I actually like IHOP).
     
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