Family: The Gift You Can’t Return

Discussion in 'The Hens' Nest' started by Scout, Jul 11, 2014.

  1. Canaligator

    Canaligator Barbie Police

    We had Santa leaving gifts with multiple people / different locations when I was growing up, so it's not something I would make a big deal about. As @Fitz said, I would be very protective of your alone time as a family, but I wouldn't spend energy denying your mom the right to write "Santa" on a gift label.
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  2. CoolWife

    CoolWife Chicken

    Physical space and time I’d worry about but I’m not that into Santa anyway so idgaf if other people want to not take credit for their gifts.
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  3. LouiseBelcher

    LouiseBelcher spampants

    I remember getting Santa gifts at my grandma's house and at home. No big deal.
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  4. Comet

    Comet Instigator

    We had to tell M's mom to chill on the gifts. The argument we used was 1) we don't want C to be spoiled with a million material things and 2) we only have so much space for these things. We also had to remind her how many other people were going to be gifting to him at Christmas. We encouraged experiences, college savings, and the like in lieu of a ton of crappy plastic toys he won't care about in 6 months anyway.

    I wouldn't want her to write "from Santa" because we have purposely limited our gifts to C from Santa out of consideration for those with less than we have. I know we've all seen that social media post about this. I wouldn't want Santa gifts at the grandparents because of all the kids that don't/can't get that.
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  5. whatchyagonnado

    whatchyagonnado Chicken

    Yea I think I’d let this one go. Santa can be whatever you make it so if your kids know it as Santa visits their house for presents in the morning and visits grandma and drops off presents as surprises for later Christmas day, I think thats fun!

    eta- I will say my perspective comes from also not digging Sant as A Thing(tm) but A feels strongly about doing it so idc really. We will probably just make stockings from santa.
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  6. MagnificentCat

    MagnificentCat Chicken

    I only got Santa gifts from my parents but it was more because my parents didn’t grow up getting Santa presents. As long as it’s not heavily tilted towards a ton of Santa gifts, I can’t see the harm in an extra present or two at the grandparents house.
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  7. Zoomzoom

    Zoomzoom Old Curmudgeon

    C and I made a point of saying no Santa gifts from my ILs because they are over the top at Christmas and we've still been getting Santa gifts from them. I'm already concerned that A is going to get so much shit that she doesn't need and that we don't have a spot for. Also what @Comet said, we're planning on keeping Santa gifts fairly small like some candy (when she's older), a small toy or a book, socks, etc.

    Personally my ILs also do Santa differently so I don't want that to be an early giveaway that he isn't real.
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  8. Kimmers

    Kimmers Chicken

    Thanks chickens! I’ll shrug this one off in the name of choosing future battles haha.
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  9. Honey

    Honey Historian Staff Member

    I do think it's reasonable to request that the Santa gifts from the grandparents be on the smaller side, just because I'm a sensitive poor kid. It's not cool when Santa brings one kid an Xbox and a bike while their classmate got socks and an orange, you know?
  10. Kimmers

    Kimmers Chicken

    For this reason I’m planning to make L’s big gifts from mom & dad, not Santa.
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  11. scotchbutter

    scotchbutter Chicken

    I think a book and socks from Santa is where we’re at.
  12. CoolWife

    CoolWife Chicken

    Tbh we just do stockings and maybe one small gift from Santa, and only so D has to put something in mine.
  13. RoryGilmore

    RoryGilmore Chicken

    I never thought about the Santa thing until having a kid. It makes a ton of sense. We’re maybe a year away from C TOTALLY getting Christmas, but she knows Santa by appearance, and I think maybe 2 or 3 gifts from him, mostly small, is perfect. I think when she gets older, it’ll also take the sting out of things when she inevitably becomes a non-believer.

    I really do want C to think more about giving than receiving. Since she was born, I donate in her name to a different charity and *cannot wait* until she’s old enough to actually choose the charity herself.
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  14. Honey

    Honey Historian Staff Member

    Honestly I think that the imbalance of Santa gifts is one of the reasons I was always a skeptic as a kid. I remember wanting to believe, but never really believing. But once I got confirmation, I was really in to protecting the myth for my little sister. Being Santa is fun.
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  15. fantasynerd

    fantasynerd Extra Extra

    My parents labeled everything as being from Santa, including when I was a teenager. But they’re not the type to analyze their actions much.

    One of my favorite Christmas traditions as a kid was going with my grandparents to the mall and picking out one of those wishlists for a child in need and getting something for them.
  16. A. Ham

    A. Ham Chicken

    My parents also labeled everything from Santa but it was also not hugely extravagant at Christmas. My birthday is 2 weeks before and also I was the kind of kid who usually asked for books or warercolors--one year there was an American girl doll and I knew 100% it was from my parents because I remember telling them the last days you could make a phone order.

    In fact even now if I thank my dad for a gift he says it was from Santa and to write a thank you note to the north pole. Lol.

    Eta all this to say, I agree Santa shouldn't be the big stuff. And if a gift is something branded they'll probably know it's not Santa anyway.
  17. MagnificentCat

    MagnificentCat Chicken

    My MIL labeled everything fun as from Santa and all the practical gifts that their kids hated (clothes, educational gifts) as from them. I always thought it was nuts.
  18. Kimmers

    Kimmers Chicken

    Mine did that too! And then would ask us whose gifts we liked best lol.
  19. Canaligator

    Canaligator Barbie Police

    We usually had smaller gifts from Santa but my parents set up the Barbie dreamhouse in the living room overnight so I would see it in the morning and said that Santa had left it. It's the best present I ever got and my mom is now like "I have no idea why I didn't take credit for that! Big mistake! I was up all night putting that damn dream house together!"
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  20. Imabug1002

    Imabug1002 Chick pee

    How do your ILs do Santa?

    Everything for us was always "from Santa" but when I was 4, I opened a 2nd slinky and one was supposed to be for my sister, I was really excited but my mom said Santa probably mislabeled it and it's for S. Then my dad was like "well if you weren't wrapping everything last night and rushing, you wouldn't have put it in the wrong pile!" So we found out accidentally Santa wasn't real and it's all on camera :lol:
  21. Zoomzoom

    Zoomzoom Old Curmudgeon

    We just do stockings. They do stockings + wrapped gifts with written tags which really seems like a dead giveaway.
  22. shakespeer

    shakespeer Basic Pirate Lesbian Aesthete

    Santa always gave us the gifts my mom bought and didn’t tell my dad about so he was also always genuinely surprised on Christmas morning.
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  23. HBC

    HBC Chicken

    I’m already riled up this morning and i’m about to add emotional labor to my list
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  24. RoryGilmore

    RoryGilmore Chicken

    @shakespeer That reminds me of the year my mom bought herself a sweater she wanted, wrapped it up, and acted surprised. It was pretty badass.
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  25. MagnificentCat

    MagnificentCat Chicken

    If she’s got a memory like mine, it could have been genuine surprise.
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