Family: The Gift You Can’t Return

Discussion in 'The Hens' Nest' started by Scout, Jul 11, 2014.

  1. Apples&Oranges

    Apples&Oranges Chicken

    I'm guessing it might actually a surprise? He didn't specifically say, but we haven't had a whole family birthday party in....I don't even know how long.
  2. Afishwish

    Afishwish Bramblebutt

    In your shoes I’d send a card, gift, and try to arrange a FaceTime or something during the party. Just say you couldn’t go because of time constraints, but really want to be able to join grandma in some capacity. If relatives are going to be assholes about it, assholes are going to asshole and that’s not on you.
  3. whatchyagonnado

    whatchyagonnado Chicken

    What about a pre-recorded video? My grandma asked for everyone to visit for her 95th but fhat was July so I couldn’t travel and long story short neither could any of my sibs. My dad made videos of each of us wishing her a happy bday and telling her how much we love her and sent them with my aunt to play for her. Maybe cousin or someone trustworthy could show grandma?
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  4. Apples&Oranges

    Apples&Oranges Chicken

    Yeah, I'll try to do that if we cant go. If he can move it, great! 2 additional people said they can go if he can move the date, so I just have to wait for him to decide. Hopefully he decides soon.
  5. Afishwish

    Afishwish Bramblebutt

    Well, after weeks of not answering any of our calls (for some bizarre reason we try several times a week), my mom FaceTimed us. The apocalypse must be nigh.

    It had been so long she didn’t even know about Fry’s ASD diagnosis yet, and her reaction was completely within character (and she’s generally a shitty character). She’d already suspected he might have it based on his cadence (“oooh, I had such a SAD feeling”), and she took the news the same way she would have taken me saying he had a terminal illness or some shit. So continues Mamafish’s life of suffering, much of which is legit sad, and much of which is self-induced martyrdom.

    Thus far the only grandparent who hasn’t pissed me off with regards to the diagnosis is my cringeworthingly tone-deaf dad, which is really saying something.
  6. ClamJam

    ClamJam Chicken

    Sorry your mom was so disappointing. Fry is great and luck to have you as his mom!<3
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  7. hellohelloagain

    hellohelloagain Chicken

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  8. Lh718

    Lh718 Chicken

  9. scotchbutter

    scotchbutter Chicken

    Ugh, Mama Fish never fails to disappoint. I’m sorry.
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  10. Comet

    Comet Chicken

    My therapist and I got on the subject of my MIL today and I was telling her about how she drove 3 hours to the hospital while I was in labor without telling us. My therapist said that was some straight out of JustNoMIL shit (not exact words) and I've never felt so validated. My next therapy session is the day before she comes over here for a week and that is timely AF.
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  11. whatchyagonnado

    whatchyagonnado Chicken

    BIL and SIL are staying with us next weekend. They asked a looooong time ago if they could visit then and its been like 2 years since they were here.

    Queue my mom calling this morning to remind me my dad is staying with us this weekend (?????). Turns out they did ask us if they could stay on their way to a conference for my dad, but they gave us the wrong month so we were not expecting them. Well my mom cancelled her ticket for travel to watch their elderly dog who unfortunately just passed away. Its too late to rebook her ticket. Now my dad is coming, but he wants my mom to drive him here this weekend and have her come back next weekend to pick him up so she can see us. I felt bad but I had to say that she could not encroach on BILs visit. I know BIL would be upset and its not fair. Still I feel bad she is staying home and now they don’t even have their dog (which is why she was staying). I told her she should text my cousin to see if she could stay there next weekend so we will see.

    Also- because my mom can’t come to pick him up we have to get my dad next weekend to bring him back to his car at our house. His train gets in at 5am. WHYYYYYYYYYYYY.
  12. Zombie Llama

    Zombie Llama Ain't no corn bitch

    Can you give him a key and let him uber (assuming the train isn't crazy far)?
  13. moose

    moose RINGWORM GIRL :(

    Saw my ILs yesterday and as soon as we walked in, MIL tried to grab my stomach. N asked her not to because it makes me uncomfortable and the response was: “but it’s my graaaaaanddaughter”. :no:
  14. Zombie Llama

    Zombie Llama Ain't no corn bitch

    I would have smacked her for you.
  15. shakespeer

    shakespeer Basic Pirate Lesbian Aesthete

    Ask her if you can grab hers to see where your husband came from.
  16. moose

    moose RINGWORM GIRL :(

    Take me on his fetal development room tour
  17. MagnificentCat

    MagnificentCat Chicken

    I strong encourage grabbing her stomach. Reciprocation. Zero regrets.
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  18. hellohelloagain

    hellohelloagain Chicken

    Yeah that's generally a good way to get across how awkward it is to do that. They touch your belly and while they're close just reach out and touch theirs.

    Don't say anything either, just stand there with your hand on their belly as long as theirs is on yours.
  19. A. Ham

    A. Ham Chicken

    At this point honestly I like the idea of smacking her.

    Belly touching or not.
  20. Lh718

    Lh718 Chicken

  21. A. Ham

    A. Ham Chicken

    MIL came for lunch today (invited herself) and arrived at 10am. We got 5 minutes notice. Usually she comes at 11 or so and even that is too early. I'm really not thrilled. She's invited herself for October but at least hasn't dictated to us that we will go visit her for a weekend.

    And yes. I did have to spend the whole festival (where we ate ) walking 5 feet in front of them walking together, her clutching his arm like she cant walk.

    Not as bad as normal but I'm annoyed.
  22. moose

    moose RINGWORM GIRL :(

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  23. RoryGilmore

    RoryGilmore Chicken

    Oh dear god. I’m so sorry.
  24. A. Ham

    A. Ham Chicken

    It's aregular occurrence. He has no idea I hate this.

    I did tell him, 10am is too early. I will remind him to tell her that before she comes next month.

    She normally calls him for a chat on Sundays. Lately she hastried calling on Thursday and then again Sunday. It has nothing to do with me but Ilaughed to myself when A saw it was her calling again and was like....what I JUST talked to her and didn't take the call. I think she's testing the water to call more and more.
  25. Zombie Llama

    Zombie Llama Ain't no corn bitch

    Why does he let her cling on to him?
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