Daycare Drama

Discussion in 'The Hens' Nest' started by CoolWife, Apr 19, 2016.

  1. moose

    moose RINGWORM GIRL :(

    Toured some facilities today and I really didn’t like them. Tips for finding a great place?
  2. antisocialite

    antisocialite Chicken

    Local friend recommendations! If you don't know a lot of mom friends, Nextdoor/Facebook neighborhood groups can offer some up.

    Also decide what's important to you. For me, I wanted a center that provided meals (once he was on solids). My ass doesn't want to pack lunches. I have other friends that DO want to pack their own food. Look for ratios, safe sleep, how teachers interact. also if you cannot drop in at any time of day, don't choose that place. Make sure their hours/policies work for your family.

    I recommend a place close to your home vs office so pickup/dropoff is easily shared and also if you're sick but kid isnt,they can easily go in so you can rest and recover (or just take a day to yourself if you want!)
  3. Fitz

    Fitz Leslie Knope Monster

    Your comfort with the facility and the providers is key, but so is this. My commute has gotten worse and worse over the past two years, so being able to call B from the train and ask him to do pickup instead of me has been a lifesaver so many times.

    I'd also see how the care-givers interact with the children. Ours is a home daycare so very different from center-based spots, but it is immediately clear when we saw the provider and her assistant work with the kids that they really treat them like their own children.
  4. deet

    deet Chicken

    As horrible as this sounds, you want to know their safety measures, including active shooter. Unfortunately that's the world we live in today.

    I am going to guess you will not find everything on your wish list, so I would prioritize the top three and go from there.
  5. Comet

    Comet Chicken

    Agree re: close to home. Before you go visit, I'd read up on the state daycare regulations (I can email them to you if you'd like) so you can keep them in mind as you tour and notice whether they are in compliance. I'd also look up their recent inspections to see if they've had any issues (I can send you this website too if you need it).

    Eta: I'd also ask whether they allow any exemptions for vaccinations. Obviously the correct answer is not unless medically necessary.
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  6. whatchyagonnado

    whatchyagonnado Chicken

    There is a website in SC from the government that will show you every inspection report and every complaint on each daycare for the last 3 years. I feel like FL may have that as well? Some of the places people recommended to us had horrrrible lists of violations and we were able to find ones that didn’t really have any red or yellows from that site and go from there.
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  7. Tumnus

    Tumnus Chicken

    This is what we used. Here it's called the "Star quality report card." Our center isn't the fanciest but the last violation was in 2015: "vegetable served was not the vegetable on the posted menu." Other centers had complaints like kids not strapped into changing tables, or dangerous playground equipment. I can live with some veggie mixups.
  8. Comet

    Comet Chicken

    We definitely have that same thing - it's pretty easy to find, but I can email you the link if you have any trouble Moose.
  9. moose

    moose RINGWORM GIRL :(

    if you don’t mind
  10. Comet

    Comet Chicken

    DM sent!
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  11. moose

    moose RINGWORM GIRL :(

    Well the one I had squicky vibes about had really bad reports so I’m glad I have some sort of intuition there
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  12. scotchbutter

    scotchbutter Chicken

    E gave both her teachers hugs today! She had never done that before. I was also pretty sure they thought she was weird but she was in a lot of the pictures from the day this time so maybe they’re having more fun!
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  13. ClamJam

    ClamJam Chicken

    A chased one of the teachers down the hall this morning during drop off because she wanted an exploding fist bump from her. I didn't even know that my 2 year old knew what a fist bump was!
  14. Tumnus

    Tumnus Chicken

    There's a big sign on S's classroom door that says "Peanut Free Classroom." I came in this morning and a little girl was eating a PBJ uncrustable at the table, this is after Reese's came home in S's Halloween bag. I spoke with the teacher and then P called the director. Confrontation is hard for me, even when it's advocating for my kid. There's another kiddo in there that has a peanut allergy too, so it's not just us.

    In cuter news S is now married to T and J (his two little buddies) because "I love them so much. They are my best friends." So at least that's precious.
  15. CoolWife

    CoolWife Chicken

    That’s precious.

    Also frustrating. C’s Daycare is totally nut free, and they are pretty good at enforcing it. I brought some Japanese treats and they made me translate it and promise no peanuts. They sent a reminder for trunk or treat that it should be but free but C still came home with Snickers. :roll:
  16. HBC

    HBC Chicken

    Omg :loveu:
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  17. scotchbutter

    scotchbutter Chicken

    @Tumnus that's insane. I can’t imagine the shame I would feel if I sent peanut butter into a nut-free classroom. I hope the parent felt bad, it was an honest mistake, and they don’t do it again.
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  18. moose

    moose RINGWORM GIRL :(

    @Tumnus dont feel bad. Peanut free means none whatsoever and they need to be diligent.
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  19. Comet

    Comet Chicken

    Let's talk daycare teacher Christmas gifts. I hadn't even considered this until I got the three page note ("IF you want to do something for your child's teachers for Christmas, here's some info about all of them" with a half page bio on each teacher) out of C's mailbox this morning. I would like to do something for his main teacher because she's been with him since he started there and is really sweet. The other two that are in his classroom just started yesterday and a couple of weeks ago. I feel like I should do something for them (but less) mostly so they don't resent me/my kid, because who knows how long they'll last at the rate people quit that place. They also included bios on the director and assistant director and I'm side eyeing that a bit. I was thinking a Christmas card for each with an Amazon or Publix gift card. What do y'all think are reasonable amounts?
  20. hallokween

    hallokween Chicken

    Amazon or starbucks is my go-to. Maybe $25 for amazon and $10-$15 for starbucks
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  21. CoolWife

    CoolWife Chicken

    I do Target cause you can get anything there, and I’ve done a $20 bill in the past. Usually $20-25 for main teacher(s) and $10-15 for bit players.
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  22. nym711

    nym711 THIS IS MY LIFE NOW

    I also did Target, Amazon, or Starbucks last year. Like everyone else, $25 for main teachers and $15 for assistants. E has three teachers consistently in her class this year, so we'll likely do maybe $20-25 for each.

    I would also side eye the director and asst director bios.
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  23. Fitz

    Fitz Leslie Knope Monster


    We do Dunkin gift cards for our provider and her assistant, since I've seen them both with the tell-tale Dunkin cups.
  24. TaterTot

    TaterTot Rulebitch Staff Member

    I do $20 Target GCs for the five teachers I see a lot of (this includes an afternoon helper in high school who braids her hair every single day), and some nice chocolate/candy assortment for them to share.

    School teacher got a Caribou Coffee GC for $20 or $25 and one of those Wonderland gourmet popcorn canisters.

    Gifting traditions are disgusting, but I appreciate these people.
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  25. TaterTot

    TaterTot Rulebitch Staff Member

    Full disclosure: I missed Christmas for the Montessori teachers and did their gifts for Valentine's Day instead because ... I can't do it all.
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