Discussion in 'The Hens' Nest' started by CoolWife, Apr 19, 2016.
*before they're even born, sometimes, if you want those coveted infant spots.
I put E on the waitlist at several paces for this fall when I was 20 weeks pregnant. Our first choice has an opening for November. The waitlist was over a year. It’s totally insane.
I was reading the thumbnail of an article about the disparities between the guidance department in one of Boston's nicest suburbs vs. one of its least nice suburbs, and wondered to myself "what would a world look like if schools were resourced equitably?" Sigh.
France. Look up Parisian crèches. I wish we did this.
I have read that it is very hard to get your child into one, and that the amount of children per worker are double compared to the US.
Ugh yeah, I've probably mentioned here before but the one at the uni A works at, which if we're both working when we have kids is where we'd want them to go, says you have to contact them as soon as the pregnancy is confirmed. Absolutely insane.
Inspired by this I asked at ours. They have infant spots for next June.
Yeah we contacted the centre near us in January and was told the waitlist is 1-1.5 years long.
That’s a little more acceptable in a country where you could be on leave for a year. I’d have to go back after 12 weeks max.
And that 12 weeks is only if you're lucky enough to be covered by FMLA. Many, many people aren't.
Oh def. I’m V privileged that my employer offers it and I can afford to be without pay for part of it.
My mom was just telling me this is a huge issue in Nashville (guess it was on the news). Some of the places are at 3 year waitlists.
We are seeing a lot of people move into our area, so it's the 1-3 year old spots that are really hard to get into. Infants also have a long waiting list. E didn't move into her Infant II class (it's supposed to be an 8 month old to a year old classroom) until a few days before her first birthday. Back then, she didn't have that biting problem and lacked opinions so they loved having her in the baby class. They kept her in Infant II for about three months, and she got into Toddler I before a lot of the other older kids to try to help her out with biting.
E seems to be doing well in Toddler I over all though. She seems to be making friends in there, and not just school space acquaintances.
Yep. So many transplants don’t have family nearby to help with childcare, but also with wages not really matching housing cost increases, staying home is also not an option.
Guess I should start looking at daycares now? I’m wanting her to start around 1.5.
@moose Honestly, we got lucky with it. We enrolled C in a daycare riiiight before I had back surgery that miraculously had an immediate space available, and signed her up for a more limited preschool back in February. And, we live in a popular area.
My best advice would be to sign up for a local mom FB group now and see what’s up. It also couldn’t hurt to do some research now, just to see if there are certain places that look nicer than others.
Infant care here is really competitive. A year is usual for the wait list and the places that are less than that aren't places you'd want to leave your babby.
Please talk to me about Dependent Care FSAs. We have to decide by November 17th.
So baby isn’t due until May 4th, and I’m not going back to work probably until mid-September at the earliest. My understanding is that during that time, because I’m not working, even though R will be super busy for part of it with his biggest work-from-home gig of the year, nothing will be eligible?
And then when I am back (so like 3 months in 2020) R is going to be the primary childcare. He’ll probably be working some during that time, but not necessarily making money (writing, networking type stuff). If we get part time daycare or a nanny or something like that, is that eligible?
Yes you can pay a nanny or sitter with a dependent care FSA but only if they are declaring it all as income. Honestly in your situation I would skip it for next year unless you know for sure kid will go to a center, etc.
I realized we can also make this decision within 30 days of the baby’s birth. But I think maybe that’s not the best time to make a decision like that?
also realized it rolls over until March 15, 2020...
1) It appears C is napping in the Pre-K room rn. This is fine, he'll actually sleep and for more than a minute since their naptime is a lot longer. BUT. Last time that happened (when his teacher was sick, she's the only one so they go back to PreK when she's out) he peed all over because he does that when he sleeps and they don't have his pullups in that room. So, looking forward to a bag of wet sheets at pickup.
2) The front desk guy, who is normally great, just sent out next week's menu, except it's the staff schedule. Oops. Someone must have told him, right? I haven't gotten the real one yet.
C's daycare has a big problem retaining staff. His main teacher has been the same since he started in July, but he has had I think 5 different second shift teachers so far. None of them ever get a chance to know him and his habits before quitting or getting put in a different classroom. So basically he naps like shit every couple of weeks when he gets a new teacher. Another new one started about 2 weeks ago and she told me today that he has fallen asleep on the floor two days in a row. He must be absolutely exhausted to fall asleep on the floor. I have told her his naptime cues at least four times. I've also had to tell her at least twice that I do not believe it is possible for him to sleep too much (she asked if a late nap would keep him up at night - no!). If he is tired, please for the love of all that is holy, put him down. You're not doing me or him any favors by keeping him from falling asleep.
Ugh we had that problem at the last place. It was a horrible place to work and started to be a not great place for the kids. I hope they figure it out!
I am a little surprised that going on 6 months they don't have him on a schedule - even if not for his benefit, for theirs. I imagine nap time is a caregivers biggest break and a huge incentive to get a routine going...
Seven months today actually! He kind of was on a schedule, but every time he gets a new teacher, it goes out the window.