Discussion in 'The Hens' Nest' started by CoolWife, Apr 19, 2016.
Yeah we contacted the centre near us in January and was told the waitlist is 1-1.5 years long.
That’s a little more acceptable in a country where you could be on leave for a year. I’d have to go back after 12 weeks max.
And that 12 weeks is only if you're lucky enough to be covered by FMLA. Many, many people aren't.
Oh def. I’m V privileged that my employer offers it and I can afford to be without pay for part of it.
My mom was just telling me this is a huge issue in Nashville (guess it was on the news). Some of the places are at 3 year waitlists.
We are seeing a lot of people move into our area, so it's the 1-3 year old spots that are really hard to get into. Infants also have a long waiting list. E didn't move into her Infant II class (it's supposed to be an 8 month old to a year old classroom) until a few days before her first birthday. Back then, she didn't have that biting problem and lacked opinions so they loved having her in the baby class. They kept her in Infant II for about three months, and she got into Toddler I before a lot of the other older kids to try to help her out with biting.
E seems to be doing well in Toddler I over all though. She seems to be making friends in there, and not just school space acquaintances.
Yep. So many transplants don’t have family nearby to help with childcare, but also with wages not really matching housing cost increases, staying home is also not an option.
Guess I should start looking at daycares now? I’m wanting her to start around 1.5.
@moose Honestly, we got lucky with it. We enrolled C in a daycare riiiight before I had back surgery that miraculously had an immediate space available, and signed her up for a more limited preschool back in February. And, we live in a popular area.
My best advice would be to sign up for a local mom FB group now and see what’s up. It also couldn’t hurt to do some research now, just to see if there are certain places that look nicer than others.
Infant care here is really competitive. A year is usual for the wait list and the places that are less than that aren't places you'd want to leave your babby.
Please talk to me about Dependent Care FSAs. We have to decide by November 17th.
So baby isn’t due until May 4th, and I’m not going back to work probably until mid-September at the earliest. My understanding is that during that time, because I’m not working, even though R will be super busy for part of it with his biggest work-from-home gig of the year, nothing will be eligible?
And then when I am back (so like 3 months in 2020) R is going to be the primary childcare. He’ll probably be working some during that time, but not necessarily making money (writing, networking type stuff). If we get part time daycare or a nanny or something like that, is that eligible?
Yes you can pay a nanny or sitter with a dependent care FSA but only if they are declaring it all as income. Honestly in your situation I would skip it for next year unless you know for sure kid will go to a center, etc.
I realized we can also make this decision within 30 days of the baby’s birth. But I think maybe that’s not the best time to make a decision like that?
also realized it rolls over until March 15, 2020...
1) It appears C is napping in the Pre-K room rn. This is fine, he'll actually sleep and for more than a minute since their naptime is a lot longer. BUT. Last time that happened (when his teacher was sick, she's the only one so they go back to PreK when she's out) he peed all over because he does that when he sleeps and they don't have his pullups in that room. So, looking forward to a bag of wet sheets at pickup.
2) The front desk guy, who is normally great, just sent out next week's menu, except it's the staff schedule. Oops. Someone must have told him, right? I haven't gotten the real one yet.
C's daycare has a big problem retaining staff. His main teacher has been the same since he started in July, but he has had I think 5 different second shift teachers so far. None of them ever get a chance to know him and his habits before quitting or getting put in a different classroom. So basically he naps like shit every couple of weeks when he gets a new teacher. Another new one started about 2 weeks ago and she told me today that he has fallen asleep on the floor two days in a row. He must be absolutely exhausted to fall asleep on the floor. I have told her his naptime cues at least four times. I've also had to tell her at least twice that I do not believe it is possible for him to sleep too much (she asked if a late nap would keep him up at night - no!). If he is tired, please for the love of all that is holy, put him down. You're not doing me or him any favors by keeping him from falling asleep.
Ugh we had that problem at the last place. It was a horrible place to work and started to be a not great place for the kids. I hope they figure it out!
I am a little surprised that going on 6 months they don't have him on a schedule - even if not for his benefit, for theirs. I imagine nap time is a caregivers biggest break and a huge incentive to get a routine going...
Seven months today actually! He kind of was on a schedule, but every time he gets a new teacher, it goes out the window.
Toured some facilities today and I really didn’t like them. Tips for finding a great place?
Local friend recommendations! If you don't know a lot of mom friends, Nextdoor/Facebook neighborhood groups can offer some up.
Also decide what's important to you. For me, I wanted a center that provided meals (once he was on solids). My ass doesn't want to pack lunches. I have other friends that DO want to pack their own food. Look for ratios, safe sleep, how teachers interact. also if you cannot drop in at any time of day, don't choose that place. Make sure their hours/policies work for your family.
I recommend a place close to your home vs office so pickup/dropoff is easily shared and also if you're sick but kid isnt,they can easily go in so you can rest and recover (or just take a day to yourself if you want!)
Your comfort with the facility and the providers is key, but so is this. My commute has gotten worse and worse over the past two years, so being able to call B from the train and ask him to do pickup instead of me has been a lifesaver so many times.
I'd also see how the care-givers interact with the children. Ours is a home daycare so very different from center-based spots, but it is immediately clear when we saw the provider and her assistant work with the kids that they really treat them like their own children.
As horrible as this sounds, you want to know their safety measures, including active shooter. Unfortunately that's the world we live in today.
I am going to guess you will not find everything on your wish list, so I would prioritize the top three and go from there.
Agree re: close to home. Before you go visit, I'd read up on the state daycare regulations (I can email them to you if you'd like) so you can keep them in mind as you tour and notice whether they are in compliance. I'd also look up their recent inspections to see if they've had any issues (I can send you this website too if you need it).
Eta: I'd also ask whether they allow any exemptions for vaccinations. Obviously the correct answer is not unless medically necessary.
There is a website in SC from the government that will show you every inspection report and every complaint on each daycare for the last 3 years. I feel like FL may have that as well? Some of the places people recommended to us had horrrrible lists of violations and we were able to find ones that didn’t really have any red or yellows from that site and go from there.
This is what we used. Here it's called the "Star quality report card." Our center isn't the fanciest but the last violation was in 2015: "vegetable served was not the vegetable on the posted menu." Other centers had complaints like kids not strapped into changing tables, or dangerous playground equipment. I can live with some veggie mixups.