Daycare Drama

Discussion in 'The Hens' Nest' started by CoolWife, Apr 19, 2016.

  1. Apples&Oranges

    Apples&Oranges Chicken

    As a daycare worker, I'd bet money that it was the result of parental complaints. Or possibly former staff incompetence. (Most likely the first though)
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  2. Tumnus

    Tumnus Chicken

    This is just a petty whine. It's spirit week and for some reason the boys have 2 different schedules. WHY????? I didn't realize they were different until S came home from school Monday and said "the other kids told me it wasn't pajama day, it was hat day." I'm doing well to remember diapers/wipes/etc but to ask me to remember that 1 kid has pajama day and the other has hat day is just too much for my dumb brain.
  3. TaterTot

    TaterTot Rulebitch

    And how not fun for the kids not all to be doing the same thing.
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  4. TaterTot

    TaterTot Rulebitch

    The 14yo is back to babysit today because I'm both desperate and a glutton for punishment.

    She's been with them an hour and she's already texting me for the WiFi credentials.

    Um, why the fuck would you need it when I said no screens/iPad/TV?
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  5. scotchbutter

    scotchbutter Chicken

    E took a nap for the first time at preschool daycare today!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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  6. MagnificentCat

    MagnificentCat Chicken

    That’s a major victory!
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  7. DaleBrennan

    DaleBrennan Chicken

    She's probably like, dafuq? why haven't I been doing this every day????
  8. Comet

    Comet Instigator

    Any tips to get C to nap better at daycare? They can usually get him to take two naps (sometimes only one though), but they almost never total more than an hour and a half. Today was an hour and ten minutes and that's pretty standard. He will be five months on Friday so I think he needs a lot more daytime sleep than that.

    He wakes up on his own around 6am, eats, and goes back to sleep until 7-7:30. I drop him at daycare between 8:15-8:30 and he will usually nap for about 30-40 minutes between 10 and 11 and again between 1 and 2. I pick him up around 3:45 and he will take a 1.5-2.5 hour nap in the late afternoon/evening. Bed time is 7:30-8:30 and he sleeps through the night.

    It feels like we barely get to hang out with him on week days because he's so tired when I pick him up - the whole afternoon/evening is pretty much sleeping or eating. I really want to get him to take that long nap in the afternoon at daycare and then just a short evening nap so we can actually do stuff with him. He naps MUCH better on the weekends for us so I know he can do it. I try to keep him on the daycare schedule as much as possible (naps at 10am & 1pm).
  9. RogueLlama

    RogueLlama Chicken

    @Comet what are his nap conditions at daycare? We ended up providing a travel sized white noise machine because E had severe FOMO and didn’t nap well. The white noise machine cancelled out some of the background noise and helped him stay asleep.
  10. Comet

    Comet Instigator

    @RogueLlama They do play white noise and turn off the lights during designated nap time (10 & 1), but I think his FOMO is a huge part of the problem. I also think he is overtired by scheduled nap time. His early cues are pretty subtle and I think they are missing them or ignoring them in the name of getting all of the babies on the same nap schedule. He has a sleep sack there, but I don't think they ever really use it.
  11. Apples&Oranges

    Apples&Oranges Chicken

    That's insane to me that an infant classroom would all be on the same nap schedule.
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  12. nym711

    nym711 THIS IS MY LIFE NOW

    Honestly, E never really napped in her Infant I classroom. They let the babies nap on their own schedules, and she also suffered from FOMO. She was in that classroom for a long time since they didn't have room for her in the older infant class. Once she got into Infant II at around a year old, they all napped in the afternoon on a schedule, and if she needed, the teacher would let her take a morning nap too. She became a much better napper in Infant II, but I think a lot of that had to do with age.
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  13. RogueLlama

    RogueLlama Chicken

    @Comet if he’s 5 months and waking up at 7-7:30 am, then you’re right that he’s probably overtired by nap time since most 5 month olds don’t have 3 hour wake window. I think we were at 2.5 max then and his first was two hours. Having the second nap at 1 is an ok wake window for him if he’s getting a 40ish minute nap, but would be too short for E at nearly 8 months since he won’t go down until he’s been awake 3 hours (plus he only takes 2 naps a day and that would mess up his final wake window). I’m also surprised they have infants on the same schedule. I write down on his sheet every day when he woke up and ate so they know when to nap him and feed him. All the babies are on their own schedules until they move to the 12 -18 month room.
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  14. Comet

    Comet Instigator

    They don't really, but they are trying. I just don't think it works well for C.

    We do this too and I discussed with them this morning that they should be trying to put him down 2 hours after his last wake up. His main teacher had actually already decided on her own to move his crib to a quieter, darker spot in the room because she said she noticed he wasn't sleeping enough. Hopefully they'll stick to the 2 hour wake windows and that gets him on a more reasonable schedule.
  15. RogueLlama

    RogueLlama Chicken

    @Comet I’m glad the main teacher noticed the problem and is trying to solve it! Hopefully with the correct wake windows and less going on around him his need for sleep will overpower his baby FOMO and he can get the rest he needs.
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  16. MagnificentCat

    MagnificentCat Chicken

    So M is just now getting to a consistent 2.5-3 hour wake window regardless of time of day, but back at 5 months his wake window was pretty much 1.5-2 hours after first wake-up; 2-2.5 after first nap, and 2-3 hours after second and third nap. He’s not in daycare so while he’s got major FOMO (what baby doesn’t?) having a longer wake window in the afternoons doesn’t sound crazy to me.

    I do get feeling like he plays when he’s away and sleeps when he’s home. It sucks. M’s starting to sporadically take 2 longer naps and drop his evening nap, so that’s fun because it gives us more time to be together as a family.
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  17. Comet

    Comet Instigator

    I just secured C a spot at the only Montessori preschool in our town for the day he turns one by doing less than an hour of work. They don't advertise that they accept one year olds and you have to have a connection to get in there before two. My friend's kids go there and she's really active in the PTA. She was put in charge of filing the PTA tax return, but had no idea what she was doing so I did it with her. The owner of the school told my friend she'd write me a check for it, but my friend told her what I really wanted was a spot for C. So now I have one! :cool:
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  18. deet

    deet Chicken

    lol it is amazing to me how cutthroat our schooling institutions have become as soon as a kid is breathing outside of mom
  19. Apples&Oranges

    Apples&Oranges Chicken

    *before they're even born, sometimes, if you want those coveted infant spots.
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  20. RogueLlama

    RogueLlama Chicken

    I put E on the waitlist at several paces for this fall when I was 20 weeks pregnant. Our first choice has an opening for November. The waitlist was over a year. It’s totally insane.
  21. Fitz

    Fitz Leslie Knope Monster

    I was reading the thumbnail of an article about the disparities between the guidance department in one of Boston's nicest suburbs vs. one of its least nice suburbs, and wondered to myself "what would a world look like if schools were resourced equitably?" Sigh.
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  22. MagnificentCat

    MagnificentCat Chicken

    France. Look up Parisian crèches. I wish we did this.
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  23. Zombie Llama

    Zombie Llama Ain't no corn bitch

    I have read that it is very hard to get your child into one, and that the amount of children per worker are double compared to the US.
  24. A. Ham

    A. Ham Chicken

    Ugh yeah, I've probably mentioned here before but the one at the uni A works at, which if we're both working when we have kids is where we'd want them to go, says you have to contact them as soon as the pregnancy is confirmed. Absolutely insane.
  25. CoolWife

    CoolWife Chicken

    Inspired by this I asked at ours. They have infant spots for next June.
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